maybe you guys can help me the way you have helped others...

i didnt want to make this post i wish i never had a reason to...

im a little late to get things and tonight things are getting to me... i really need your guys support right now i know i dont know more then half yall but some one talk to me damnit....

on jan. 29th my little sister died in a horrible car crash. she was only 23. we were not as close as i would have liked and i have some regreats. i dont know what to say right now. ive had to be there for my parents the past few weeks and ive tried to be the strong one... after all the temptations said... "every one knows that a man aint suppose to cry" but riight now i wish it would rain...

im not sure why it took this long to hit me but it feels like a ton of bricks just fell on my heart right now guys.... im sorry for not talking about cars and **** that we dig but i need to vent... she used to love helping me get my cars cleaned up to go cruising on the weekend. i never did take her with me though.. dumb big brother **** ya know... cant let her cramp my style while i think im picking up some chicks haha....

I dont know what else to say. i wish i didnt have any thing to say... sorry for throwing this **** on you guys... being tore up ove some stupid **** that didnt need to happen ****s.

Rock the **** on Danielle.......

Her and her tattoo artist Lance....

 

Sorry for your loss. Hopefully time will heal.
Prayers and condolences from my family

 

I haven't lost any siblings, but I have lost both of my parents, my mother relatively young.

Nothing I can say will totally help you get through what you're feeling right now, but knowing that others have been through the same and survived brings a little solace.

You have to know that you loved her more than you realized and that she loved you equally. I'm not as close to my bros and sisters than I should be, but we do know we are loved be each and everyone.

Keep her in your heart, there's nothing wrong with letting it out when it needs to be let out. Celebrate her life and keep her close to your heart.

God Bless,
Oggie

 

You have made the right start by letting everyone know you are hurting. We all Grieve in Different ways ( or so it would appear to others).Take you own time ,feel sad,it's normal and in time the worst will p***.
It will never leave you entirely and every now and then her memory will bring you to tears because a sister is a sister, regardless of how close you were.
She wouldn't be very impressed if you weren't mourning her p***ing would she?

If it gets really bad, consider talking with your GP and go on a short course of anti depressents. It's better than ruining your health by being depressed an it helps keep everything in a true perspective.

 

i got a good friend on the way he knew her and she was a sister to him as well.. he did my memorial tattoo for me i cant be alone right now im freeking the **** out...

Thanks yall

 

That's best, keep people close. Hang in there man.

Oggie

 

hang in there man i lost my daughter a few years back you have to think about the good times youhad with her when she p***ed i went out in the garage in dec. and came out in sept. i built a car i had to do something to keep busy thats what you must do keep busy hang in there

 

It's allright to shed tears for your sister. Let em flow. Prayers to you and your family.

Craig

 

You have the right to vent, it must be hard.
Good thoughts coming your way, DirtyT

 

i lost my 14yr old nephew a few years ago.some punk 17 yr old kid thinking he was rickyracer doin 70 in 35 .dustin was just starting to be interested in cars, and then he was gone. my dad and i were the only guys he had around. i put off teaching him how to snowboard and other things like that.. she knows you cared & shes probably worried about your parents and you.

 

We are here for you man.....keep on going strong I am sure that is what she would want. I have struggled trajedy also but have gotten through it.

 

I have lost my dad and a few close relatives in the last 7 years. Brother, the first mistake I made was trying to be "hard". Not showing how I felt. It didn't work and soon it drop kicked me. I talked to my mom and finally, her minister.

It takes time to heal and a big part of healing for me, was letting out the hurt. I'm not saying start smashing **** or going on a crying binge. Just tell someone how you REALLY feel. You have made a big step in sharing with us, but you may need the ears of a person near to you. You gotta let it out man. It worked for me.

As a hot rodder, you're used to fixing things, but sometimes, the hardest thing to fix is yourself.

 

Prayers to you and yours TONIGHT and God Bless you all.
I'm so sorry for your loss!

 

Be strong brother....

So sorry to hear about your loss.

ROB

 

The first step is the one you've already done, share your grief with friends,and i know there are many of those,here on the HAMB. Make sure you don't spend all your time dwelling on what didn't happen,think about the good things that did. Keep busy,with anything that makes you think about those good times,preferably with supportive people.If you drink,lay off for a while till things are better it's a depressant.If that isn't enough,don't be shy to ask for help from your Doctor. It's not shameful to get treatment,do it as an honour to your sister,your sister would not have wanted you to be so unhappy.Most of all your HAMB family is here "anytime" you need to share these hard times.

 

I'm so sorry to hear about your sister Byran...........my thoughts and prayers are with you. Just remember she will always live on in your heart as she will be watching over you from above. God bless Danielle and god bless you bro.

 

God will bless you and give you the strenght that you need so much
at this terribly time
God Speed to ya and your family

 

Hang in their brother. Don't let anybody tell you that you're not a man if you cry. I know the feeling of being the strong one for everybody else to lean on. Celebrate her in life. Dedicate your latest build to her.

You're in my thoughts and prayers.

 

Hey man, I don't know ya, but I was just praying for ya, for some peace and some strength. I don't know were you are with God, but I do know He is right there, just ask for His help. I have, and could not go through my pain during my situation with out Him. Hang in there man, be with friends and family. I'll be praying. Craig

 

Men do cry it we wernt supossed to we wouldnt have the feeling we need too sometimes God himself wept. Im sorry to hear abuot what happen but dont dwell on thing you could of done. No matter what she knew you loved her and you know you did also. talking about things is the best way to work things out

 

Wow, sorry for your loss man.

 

Wish I had some majic words for you Bro. Just know that it takes time. Peace is coming, it just takes time. It'll never make since.

Little sisters are a special kind of pain in the *** huh? The kind everybody should have. Don't let regret get in the way of mourning. Judging from your reaction I'll bet she knew exactly how you felt about her. Your love for her are a reflection of her love for you.

 

Bryan, dont know if any of this will help, but I have lost an older brother and sister, it is always a big shock, when anything like this happens, and somehow I automatically throw up a self defense frame of mind and try to be strong for everyone else, and try to get through the worst part of it all, somehow, this delays the actual full effect of it all on me and as time p***es, it sets in ,that it is real, and then, I question why these things happen, and the general question of what reason or purpose are we put here to live our lives? I dont know the answer to that, not sure if anyone knows for sure,but I do believe there is more to life, than what, most of us believe it consist of, and that there is a higher power watching over all this confusion.
What has helped me is, to try and spend more time with my remaining family, help them in ways that I have the means to do so, and always keep the good memories of the ones I lost, in my thoughts , close to my heart,and in my prayers.
Im, very sorry to hear that this has happened,but will be thinking of you and your family and will be including you in, my prayers.

 

very very VERY sorry to hear. my only advise is to turn to Jesus, he's ready for this...for you.

-marty

 

Sorry to hear about your loss. Just know that ALL of our prayers are with you and your family.

Brian

 

My Thoughts and Prayers are with you and your Family.

It is a horrible thing to go through, I have been through it more than once.

But keep your Head up and your family close.

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

 

Bryan,

I lost my Dad unexpectadely 2 years ago. I usually don't show a lot of emotions but that was the first traumatic thing that happened to me. I still have a hard time dealing with it somedays. I wish he was around to help me work on my cars and my house. But this thread is about you man. I can only imagine some of what you're going through. Stay strong and remember all the good things. I know we're not close friends but you know my number and where I live, if you ever need anything I'd be more than happy to help you. You've helped me on my car numerous times.

Bryan

 

Sorry to hear about your sister. I'm an old hard a$$ Marine and I can tell you that its ok to cry. Let it out. Stay close to your loved ones. All the guys in the HAMB will help in any way we can. We are here for you!

 

ya know what man.. lets not make it about me... i want to hear about every ones **** they went thru. im not about me guys... it seems a bunch of us have gone thru some **** so lets shar... talk about the one the ones you lost share it all. its horrible and ****ing ****s more then any thing thing... but ive noticed the last few weeks talking about seems to make it feel better....... well that and a little Al Green.







And time can do so much....

Thank you all from the bottom of my heart... and thank my freind Scott who is here for me right now...... i like dots....

 

My middle son died in a car crash 15 years ago. It is the very worst thing that can happen to any one. the only thing i can say is cherish the memories remember the good times. Time does dull the pain but life goes on OldWolf