My son hung himself this morning

Here's My advice:

I went through a rough time when my little bro died. The best thing you can do is greive. Some times we act like tough guys and put it off. You can do it now or later, but eventually you will breakdown. Don't be the tough guy. Cry. It will help you understand better as to what happened.

Dont blame yourself. The first thing we do is blame ourselves for what we could have done better. We cant change anything now and I dont think your son would have wanted you to beat yourself up over it. Sometimes life can be overwelming and we act on our emotions. It's sad. I wish you the best of luck. If you need help sorting your feelings feel free to contact me. I watched my mother go through the same thing. Nothing is worst than having to bury your own child. Take care and god bless.

 

Sorry to hear that

 

Please know this, that the Lord Jesus Christ loves us all and gave his life for our salvation.

I know that you were and still are a great Father.

God Bless you,

 

I'm so sorry. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

 

so sad....im sorry for your loss.....prayers sent...

 

deepest sympathies my friend.

 

I am very sorry for your loss and hope that you can find some comfort drawing close to your family and friends who are also grieving. Crying together is better than crying alone.

 

Condolences.

 

so sorry for you loss,you are in my thoughts

 

Sorry for your loss

 

We lost a son many years ago. All I can say is that the hurt does go away slowly, but you must concentrate on the positive parts of your relationship. I can't add any more that the others have already suggested other than, please take our advise.

Don't keep it inside or it will kill you too.
Rich, OFC

 

I lost my 19 yr.old daughter to a drunk driver almost 17 years ago. I can only imagine your pain. I went through the "what ifs" and finally came to the realization that I wasn't in charge. God has given us a gift when sent His only Son so that we have salvation. All we have to do is accept this most wonderful gift. When I did I have received a peace that I couldn't find myself.
This is the season that we celebrate the birth of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Please ask your Heavenly Father for his help at this darkest time.
I will say a prayer for you and your family.
Gary

 

For once in my life, I am lost for words, but I am overwhelmed with emotion. I believe and I will pray.

 

Wow. I am so sorry for your son's death and I encourage you to just grieve but don't blame yourself. We all make mistakes and God still loves you even so. None of us are promised an easy life, or even life itself. I have personally experienced His comfort in times of loss and His help in times of trouble. Use the HAMB Chapel or talk to whatever pastor you know best or even a grief counselor. All of us who have kids wish we could have done some things better but in the end, the choices they make are their own. GIve yourself some time and space and try to dwell on any happy times you had together, even if they were long ago.

 

My prayers are with you and your family.

 

First of all,I'm very sorry for your loss,and will be praying for you and your family,as others have said,if you don't have a church you attend regularly,try to find one in your area to help you.Often times we don't understand why things happen,Just remember all the good times y'all had together and talk to people about him to keep his memory alive.He will always have a special place in your heart.We will be praying for you and if you need someone to talk to,just pm me,take care and God bless.

 

amen!

 

My prayers go to you and your family. God is always with you.

 

You, your son, and your whole family will be in our prayers. If there is any way we can do somthing all you have to do is ask.

 

My most sincerest condolences!

Joel

 

oh man i cant imagin what your going through but i will pray for you and your family

 

Just know that we are all here for you. The choice was his, and who can know another man's heart? I don't know how your relationship was, you said you weren't a good father, none of us are when something like this happens. It is not your fault. There were good moments I am sure. Treasure them.

My biological dad committed suicide from a heroin overdose in 1960 before I was born. My dad who raised me was his cousin, and he raised me right, hard and tough. I would not have survived the things I have been through if not for him. He told me once he hadn't been a good dad to me for not getting me away from my crazy dopehead mom. I told him he had been a good dad, he did the best he could considering I was another mans child. He and his cousin were close and I know it pained him to see me grow up looking alot like him. He died a couple of years ago from lung cancer. You can be a good dad and never know it, just know that.

Get some grief counseling, and say good bye to him properly. Pouring coals on your head serves no purpose. You are in my thoughts.

 

Im sorry to hear that, my prayers are with him and your family.. T.m

 

Maybe you should have been a better father sooner. I am not raining on your sorrow but, you said it your own words. I think it is a shame that you would come on here with news like this. **** it up and if you have other kids try and be a better father to them.

I'm not trying to be a cold *** hole.

 

I lost my 17 yr old son a little over 3 yrs ago, I know at least some of what you feel, but everyones situation is different, church wasn't for me and still isn't, but a best friend who will just listen is worth a ton, therapy helps too, wish I had some great advise, but there is non, it hurts for a long long time, but you learn to deal with it over time, but that is all that helps....time

 

sorry for your loss, my heart goes out.

 

From personal experience ..........Amen again!
Fitysix

 

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Just remember even in the worst of times everything happens for a reason and you may not see it now but one day something positive will come from this. What happened today may make someone more aware of signs that is affecting someone in there family and they may be able to help thing because of you. God is on your side no matter how much it seems like he isnt there is a reason for all of this. I hope you family and you pull threw and bring you close to everyone.

 

even without trying, you've succeeded magnificently.

 

Jerk.