I couldn't tell you how many times I was about to show a car for sale to someone who never showed, after spending a day getting it cleaned and ready, and waiting around, for- nothing...or the several people I've dealt with, who, like you- agreed to buy...and after fending off others telling them it was sold, for one excuse or another, the deal went south. I was pissed in each instance. If you can't afford it, or even think there is a slight possibility that the deal will fall thru on your end, don't say you'll buy it. From what he wrote about the time he took to get it ready for you, there must have been no doubt in his head this was a done deal. I've also learned a valuable lesson...non-refundable deposit. A deposit shows just how true the buyer will be to his word. And if he isn't, that money pays for your lost time. You seem like you made this guy feel as though you would come thru without a doubt, BUT things can happen where money problems arise. I think this is your case, otherwise you wouldn't broadcast to the world that you simply changed your mind and came up with an excuse. I take it no deposit was involved? Then shame on the seller.
Just my opinion, but doing all that work and then at the last minute having someone back out would piss me off. Did you know he was doing all that work while you were trying to get money?
Well, he wanted a deposit of $500, which I told him I would send. But on the same day that I promised to send it is when I found out I couldn't afford the car. (Read my above post for explanation.) Anyways, I realise I am at fault, but I was hoping that he might understand the situation that I am in.
let's get this straight. you ****ed him over, but you did it politely, so you can't understand why he's pissed? How about this. Change positions... now, how would you feel?
Braedyn, I think the problem is that you emailed the seller rather calling on the phone, he may have been more understanding, or you could have expanded on the reason for not buying the car.
what he said..had a bud goin to trade..he changed his mind..so he sent the guy some cash to settle it like a man..very nobel thing to do..also, why the **** are you paying for your parents to get divorced???let them work that out..there adults!!!but if ive overlooked somethin[which i do sometimes] then disregard last of my post!!
It wasn't a threat, if he really is a Mason then he was going the extra mile for you. You don't join, you have to be invited to join.
No, that's not what I said. I acknowledged that he has a RIGHT to be pissed off. I just didn't understand why he would get as pissed off as he did (as it seemed he was threatening me). Anyways, the situation has been cleared up between the two of us, although I won't count on hearing from him any time soon...
My grandfather was a mason. I learned many things from him. First and foremost: A man's word is gold. If you said the deal was done, and you'd buy it, you better be ready to finish the deal.
that guy needs to understand that it happens in the world of selling...cars or whatever it may be. He needs to get over it.... Happens to me too...what are you going to do about it? Nothing.
first off, i'm not taking sides. it seems pretty clear who is at fault but how about this. i've been talking with a guy for the last 2 weeks who is 300 miles from me about buying a van from him. now this is quite a drive and takes up the whole day so i canceled some things, including paying work. the last i talked with him was tuesday and told him i'd call on friday to get his address and everything. i find out friday night that he sold it. seems he could have let me know huh? i could have been working instead, making money. paul
I ***ume every deal I enter into is bull **** untill the money is in the bank... I never hold a car on a dudes word. **** me once shame on you.... **** me twice... I must be some kinda ****ing masochistic *****... Or something like that. You get the idea.
After almost 40 years of buying, selling, building, and trading old cars, I always kind of expect any deal to fall through until I have the money in my hand, I always get (and give) a non refundable deposit on any car but especially before any extra work is done, and if I couldn't hold up my end I would expect the other guy to keep that deposit and offer him a heart felt apology. The first time someone pulled out on a deal it really ticked me off because I was selling that car to buy another, I had already given someone else MY WORD and a deposit on a car I was buying,.... so I had to give him a excuse that I'm sure sounded like a bunch of BS to him,...... so I felt like a real heel because he needed the money to pay his house payment and feed his kids,...... that happned 32 years ago and I will never forget that feeling or the look on that guys face,.... and swore I would Never be forced in that position again. (1). If you don't have the cash in hand, don't make the deal and don't string anyone along no matter how bad you want that car ! (2).If you haven't got all the money in hand, the car ain't sold ! (3). Always tell the truth and be 100% up front on the deal and the details, be honest with yourself on wether you can really finish up the deal,....... "A good reputation takes a long time to build, but a bad reputation spreads like wildfire" ( My Grandpa told me that)
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