Prayer Request - wife dropped a bomb on me

Hi.

I, um... am not usually good at this kind of thing, but here goes.

Last Saturday my wife dropped a bomb on me and said she wanted to continue to live at our house with our twin daughters (they'll be two in March - I'm the one that stays at home with them), but not me.

I think she's been running around on me too, but I can't confirm it.

I can forgive a lot of things, and even admit that I was at fault and didn't treat everybody the best during my year off trying to find a job, but damn... whatever it was, I always thought marriage was for life and we could work things out.

She initially wanted a divorce, but after much discussion, we may only be looking at a separation. She says she's open to me dating her, etc, and trying to win her back that way (and she can have the space she needed). Hopefully, everything she said (and I believed) about her not running around on me was true, and there's nobody else she'd go running to, but I don't know. It's a heartbreaker to be sure.

I'd like us to get back together. I don't know anything about any of this, or how it works, but we'll figure it out.

Any prayers directed our way will be greatly appreciated. Man, I never thought a guy could feel this bad.

 

damn man, that sucks to hear. good luck with the relationship and stay strong!!

and if you want to "win her back", treat her like you treated her when you first started dating.

 

I'll definitely be praying for you man.

 

Hang in there Bro.

 

sorry to hear that. don't let the enemy get between you guys! stay strong have faith and start praying.

_T

 

I'm sending one your way.

 

Hang in there, man. Have faith and see if she'll share that faith with you. Read what the Bible has to say about marriage and such together, as a couple and you'll be amazed at how simple the anwsers will be. Praying together = staying together.
Do not agree to seperate. You can't work on anything if you're not together. Seperation is ALWAYS a path to divorce, not to getting back together.
You are in my prayers.

 

Don't move out. If you do, you'll lose your ass in the divorce...

Ask me how I know. If she's running around on you, and you stay in the house while she moves out, you have a much better chance at keeping it and the kids...

best of luck.

 

Prayers are with you man! Be strong.

CR

 

A trial seperation is just a delay to the outcome good luck.

 

Words of wisdom right there bro!

Pray if that helps you, but COVER YOUR ASS!!!!!!!

 

PM sent.
r

 

Dump her & move on. win her back! F-that you dont need her. Take a listen to the Tom Leykis show on 106.9 fm Tom will explain everything. you can find him on the web.
It is better for every one, she wants you out then do it. It will suck at first, then it wil be awesome!

 

My prayers are with you. Stay strong.

 

Bro, sorry to hear about this. Go with your gut, don't move out, and don't be a sucker. Been through the same sort of thing, and looking forward to more happiness. Protect your self and cover your assets, that is the best thing you will be able to do for your kids. Good luck man, and better days are coming.

 

Very sorry to hear about this. Hang in there. Every day it gets a little bit easier. PM sent.

 

im sorry about your situation but these guys are right. COVER YOUR ASS ! if you think shes running around you might be right. always go with your first instinct.you might wanna hire a P.I. IMHO

 

Abomination pay attention! I have a real good friend who is a great father to his kids but because he ex steam rolled him into moving out to an apartment while she "found herself" he got slapped by the judge for "abandoning the family", hell his apartment was only 2 blocks away.

 

I tried the seperation the first time. Like was said, just delayed the inevitable. I loved her with all my heart. Same deal, running around but I couldn't prove it. It fucked me up for a long time. For me at least, it was the greatest gift she could have EVER given me. I resent her for it and at the same time I am eternally grateful as I have a great wife this time around.

I hope you find your way, on your terms. Good luck man.

 

I'd suggest that you dont meet any of her demands.
I would suggest too that you stay put. Tell her if she really is interested in keeping your family together that you two must start by going to a councilor of some type.
Get this.....
You never really leave your spouse even after a breakup.
Why go through this when it will break you down and the kids with you.
I wish you guys luck. Dont expect miracles though.
Yep I said a prayer too.

 

Man, crap like this really can put things into perspective.
Hang in there and pray your ass off. Been there, done that.........sucks, I know.

 

I'm afraid I know how it works but you probably should avoid thinking about it for the time being.

Prayer is good. I can do that.

I'm not far off if you need someone to talk to. Oh and a little advice avoid getting sloppy drunk it won't help a thing.

 

I've been through it and it sucks, but like the other guys have said it does get better.

I also found that (after we were separated) jumping in bed with a smokin' hot 6' blonde goes a long way towards healing old wounds.

Chin up bro.

 

Praying for you both and your kids twice as much. I have a friend that's a pastor and he tells a story of "a man who comes in for counsel six times and each time says how much his wife is this and that and if she could just do this better or that better they might get back together and my friend says that the man should spend the time he spends complaining praying for his wife to feel Gods love for her and let God change her heart she just may come back!" Pray for your wife to fall more in love with God and he will change her heart. Then she may have a change of heart.

 

I agree with LaGrosta! Search the Bible (ephesians!), read, pray and most importantly-listen! If you Pray in faith, God will speak to you and tell you "exactly" what to do!
Hang in there! ALL things happen for a reason.
Have a nice day my friend!

 

Even though I cannot imagine the pain that you are going through, my heart
hurts for you brother. Be careful taking advice from others. By your post I
don't have to tell you the importance of Prayer. Keep your ears open and
you will be led in the right direction.

I believe in miracles and healing, so keep the faith.

Gods Blessings,

Mick

 

Sounds like you hope for reconciliation, and of course that will dictate what you do and how you approach issues...BUT!!! you do need to cover your tail in case things don't work out OR in case what your wife is saying and what she is actually planning differ...
If everything fails and divorce is the outcome, there are tons of things you could be doing and saying right now that can later get you absolutely trashed legally in every aspect of custody, property, and life.
Go with your best insticts, but cover the looming bad possibilities very carefully. Run to Barnes&Noble at once and get some current how-to books, preferably ones with info specific to your state laws, study them carefully, and don't let anyone see them. AND get real legal advice SOON. You're hoping for the best, but you have to play your hand in the knowledge that the worst outcomes could easily leave you without kids, wife, home, money, hotrods, etc. for DECADES.

 

All these guys have good advice, Dont move out, get a book, cover your ass, keep quiet about covering your own ass. If she is "planning" you are in the most important poker game of your life! DO NOT show her your cards. #1.. love your children and yourself first.
Good luck.
Sent ya a PM

 

Change of pace, and lifestyle. Go through this staight and narrow. Ease into the problem's and slow as she goe's. Don't force it. Lean on the people you can trust. Open your heart, to the Lord and mean it.

 

Work hard for reconciliation, but see an attorney NOW...TODAY...before you do anything!