I always see guys start threads on the Hamb about someone they have lost and as I have always felt sympathetic I still kinda felt it was a little out of place for a traditional hot rod board. Now I understand a bit more. Looking for some support from guys like yourself really does matter. My wife and I have lost our twin boys. She went into premature labor at 5mo. We still had to go through the birthing process. It was horrible....Fortunatly we still have a 1yr old boy who helps ease our pain. And he does... I have kinda clamed up and haven't talked to anybody and I know I really need to, but I don't want to have to talk about things again. So I decided to break some ice here on the hamb. Its so hard to truly understand someones loss until it happens directly to you. "To all those out there who have lost someone close my heart goes out to you"....Lucky
I think its cool that people post their pain. I honestly try to read them all and think about life and what I have. I am so sorry and could never ever know what kind of pain you must be in.
I believe that it is not how well we are able to manage success or good fortune that builds our character...but how we manage or cope with loss. The trick is to stay on your feet...and keep putting one foot in front of another. Life can deal out some real shit. The burden of carrying grief can seem like a load too heavy...but with each step a miniscule amount falls off. I have found that it hepls to hold on to the ones you love even tighter...chances are they need help staying on their feet too. Deep sorrow for your loss. Prayers and good thoughts go out to you, your wife and family. Ron.
Holy shit. I'm so sorry for your loss. Whether you think it fits here is not the issue. Part of the grieving process is to let it out. It helps to be able to tell about your pain and get feedback. You have alot of friends here that all want to help you and your family out. Dont ever forget that. You are not alone in your pain. Once again, sorry for your great loss. Ray
Ron's words couldn't be more true. Keep your head up, hug your wife tighter and cherish that little guy you have. Tragedies bring us closer. It's healthy to share your burden. My prayers go out to you and your family.
Words really seem to fall short, but it is all I have. So very sorry for you and your families loss. s.
Can't imagine your pain!! It will take both of you to get through this and it does help to hold the little one at home. Hang in there!!!
I'm very sorry, my friend. For what it's worth, from someone who hasn't many people to talk to, I never minded seeing these threads started, and weather I respond or not, my prayers are always sent. If RYAN has a problem with them costing bandwidth, which so far I haven't seen evidence of, I'll buy an alliance membership for my goldfish to help offset the bill. Give your wife and son a kiss and think of better days. JOE
Probably the worst type of pain a human can go through People never understand that until they have children of their own. Hang in there and be there for your family Jeff
This site is and should be a place where caring people having a common bond thru thier car hobby,can share and seek comfort in times of personal greif and stress. My heart goes out to you for your loss ,your wife and son need your strength and comfort now more than ever. GOD BLESS
I think of this place as a big ol' extended family. I know at the "Drags" it sure had the feel of a family reunion. Like all families sometimes we fuss and fight and sometimes we don't. And in a family you share the goodtimes, and the bad, and you get through it. Grieve for you loss, it's healthy, and lean on your ''family'' here for good thoughts, prayers, support. God bless and prayers from Oklahoma. GV
You're not alone, remember that. We've had our share of trajedy in the past few years and it reminds you that this world can be cruel, hold on to what you've got. My prayers are with you tonight also.
Lucky, I feel for both your wife & you. Sometime we as car guys need to talk about things that are related to what life offers up. I can say that it may get easier day by day. You will have to believe this in order to gety by. I lost my mother as a infant, My brother who lived with me when I 1st married and that took its toll on a 15yr relationship-because I rarely spoke to any of my friends about it. If you need anybody to lend you an ear, I'm here to listen.
i wish there were some magic words to say to take away your pain , as a fellow dad i can only begin to hint at the sorrow you feel. hope you know we are all a big family of gearheads here and we all wish we could take some of your pain away. god bless you and your family
When life hurts, it hurts. I am really sorry for your loss.....I've had some loss this last year too.....I don't think it goes away...it just becomes part of you...and we do grow from it if we don't try to push it down. Gotta just let it be and do the best we can, remember to be grateful for what we have. Hang in there.....obviously there is a lot of support here. It doesn't hurt any of us to remember that the cars, as much as we love them...are never as important as the people in our lives.
WOW, I'm sorry for you man!! I have an infant and can't imagine the pain your going thru!! If I turn around and she isn't where I think she is my heart skips a beat, and this is after 5 other children, man I just can't imagine yours and your wifes pain, I hope things get better for you guys, the HAMB is not JUST cars its also a whole shit load of friends with a wealth of support also!!!!!...Ken
Lucky, I can only imagine how hard this must be. You are lucky to have the one year old to focus your love and energy on. -Robert
My condolences for your loss. My son and his wife lost twins in pregnancy, then miraculously then became pregnant for twins again. They lost one of the second set before birth. The second daughter survived and has become a beautiful young lady and a true miracle. No one can explain these things, but somehow you will get through it and you can be assured that we are all praying for you and your family.
Sorry to hear about your loss. Take comfort knowing that they're in heaven. I'll be praying for you and your wife.
Everyone needs comfort...could be this is the only place they have to turn too? FWIW, I find it difficult to reply t the thread about "loss/hardship/etc"...I' rther send'em a PM and let'em know how I feel.
I'm so sorry for your loss, I too lost my beautiful Grand Son, Brett, he was 4 months old, bad heart, and lost him after the operation, That was my little boys baby, I know my pain, I can't even think of yours ,and your wife's, and my son's and his wife....just not fair....Dan
Damn...I thought your post was meant differently...hence my earlier reply...I'm so sorry about your loss, nothing anyone can say will make it better. Be strocg and survive, be there for your wife, she'll need it more than yourself.
Hey- I'm right around the corner from you. Let me know if i can do ANYTHING. If you want to get together for a beer, or to talk, or anything. Let me know....
I am sorry for your loss. It made me think of a story from a book I have. The author's son passed shortly after his birth. The author was angry, depressed, and so on, until he came to the following realization: "I found that I could love my son very much despite the fact that he would never love me back- never even know me. I realized that my love for him (and not his for me) was the legacy he'd left, and that no one could ever take it away. Except for me. And I refused to let go. The love was too powerful and too sweet. It was the one thing that was greater than the pain." I think this is a different approach to loss, and that it makes sense. I am not suggesting anyone should try to, or would be able to, skip the "normal" processes of coping with tragedy. I'm sure your extended family will understand you going at your own pace in "opening up". Thanks, Kurt
Please know there are hearts that hurt for you and your Wife's loss here in Michigan, I pray that the Lord gives you both the comfort, strength and grace to see you through this,.... I hope these help Proverbs 3: 5-6, Matthew 11: 28-30
We are truly sorry for your loss. As for posting it on here, it makes all of us HAMBers that much closer to being a close family. You have 20,000 family members feeling for you.
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