Todd, I'm sorry, wow things can change so fast. Hospice is a wonderful thing, I hope they listen to you and take advantage of this. They made my mother so comfortable. maybe if thats going to take a while they can give him something for anxiety, that at least lets him relax so he can breath better prayers are with all of you!!!!! Be there for him as much as you can, just talk to him, hearing is the last thing to go, so even if he can't respond he can hear!! and take care of yourself too.
I will include Phil in my prayers. Also, have you asked Phil the hard questions that need to be asked. As his friend you should make sure that his last wishes are carried out as he wants them and not some judge and lawyer in a probate court. It is better to have the hard talk while a person is still alive because after they are gone you can still be a friend and do for them what they want done. Good Luck. P.S when my Dad died I wished I had been brave enough to have had the talk with him instead of being in a state of denial about what was going on and then having to guess afterwords what to do with what.
thanks everyone! means more then youll know! so i went last evening and phil was doing very well! i was very suprised! they told me they tripled all his meds to help him relax. i know its just the pills, but it sure was great to see him not struggling for ever breath like earlier in the week! he had a cheom today and told told his daughter and brother to get off there ass and go with and talk to the doc!!!!the pills are only goin to work for so long! he's goin to need better care! phil doesnt think he dying even as of last night!!!and thats bullshit! the doc's have just been milking it!!!!you find me a case were someone beat bone cancer, along with lung cancer, and i would be very shocked! also, if it were helpin shrink the tumor, he would be breathin better and not worse! that ans his legs are startin to go numb again! which leads me to beleive its growin back into the spine , like it was before the operation! WHO KNOW'S? maybe the ole turkey can stick it out for another month or two!i just pray that when it go's bad, it go's fast! no suffering! so thats were its at today! ill know more tonight or so.! boy, i would so much rather be doin a tech then this!
My heart felt prayers have been sent on to the big hot rodder in the skies! God bless Phil and God bless Breeder.
mike, we have been takin all his stuff out of his rental house!!!very odd feeling . but the land lord needs his place back. i have all of his tools we built our restaurant with in my storage. feels very strange to go into his things , when he's not there. phil knows he isnt leavin the n. home ever though.. and thats rough! but he's in good hands that i cant provide for him, or anyone else. the last week ive been there twice and im goin out tomarrow to see him again... he is very tired, and im thinkin its the end of the road for him...his spirit isnt what it was and i think he's realizing, this is it! i just hope the meds they are given him take him to the end. he is the most smart assed person ive ever met.! but lately, the meds have really slowed him down. he is tired!. i just pray it happens fast, when it happens....who knows, he may be here for our show, and that would be great!!!!!weve talked about it alot!..so maybe that will be a goal for him...he loved meetin ya and all the other fellers that showed up last year for the HAMB meet and greet! i do feel him slipping lately and that is on my mind! but he knows i love him and thats all that matters to me!GOD'S good grace is all thats left... keep the prayers coming kids and maybe he can be with us in june! id love to see that happen!!! theres way too much death "early" these days! GOD BLESS TO ALL AND THANK YOU FOR THE SUPPORT FOR PHIL! TODD
well its been 30 days since i posted phils health... i was out the other day and he was very tired! but he's hangin tough! its gettin to th point were he is forgettin alot. they have him more doped up everytime i see him! he was sayin how bad his back was hurtin the other day when i was there, at he had had all his pain meds already! the doc say its not doin anything [the tumor], as in shrinkin or gettin bigger, but how long is that goin to last??thats up to GOD i suppose! i just hope he dont get real back before he go's home..thats my biggest concern! i hope he can hang in there till june..he wants to see the HAMBers and the hotrods he saw last june! he is up beet about makin it so maybe he will! thanks to all who given prayers and kind words!, ill update you all again in a few weeks if things dont change! take care...todd
well ya never know, but this ones kinda in the books..its went out of phils lung and into his bones! i just hope he stays in good spirts, but thats something else i see slippin! he is just so darn worn out!. who know's he might just snap out of it and go back to paintin with me! thanks for the kind words gang!!!means alot!
I can't tell ya how bad I feel for ya. Our family went throught this same thing with my wifes grandfather. He was a great person who lived a hard workin life for his family. It was really rough for a long time up until he finally past and even though it's strange he's not here, I feel like he's the happiest he's ever been now. And I am comfortable in the thought that I will see him again someday. Alot of times when I am wrenching on cars or busy at work, I feel like he would think what I am doing is cool. Prayers are with you and we'll see ya in June. Rick
For some reason, just saw and read this post -- from one end to the other. Prayers to you and your buddy Phil . . . he is very fortunate to have people like you in his life. Hang in there and do the best you can for him - be his friend and his brother. Thanks for sharing your pain and also your hope . . . maybe the Big Guy wants him to be here for a bit longer . . . Dale
update time again...phil got to make it down for our rust revival for about an hour...he was feelin pretty good to...well, in the last 2 days phil has taken a very bad turn...he is losin his mind and doin all kinds of wacky stuff...i think the cancer has got to his brain...not sure, but thats what it seems like...and bone cancer travels to the liver or brain when it moves...he is gettin very scared and tellin everyone this is the end...i did however get him to tell me that his beileves that GAD is is savior, so thats great! im on my way out to see him again right now....more prayers couldnt hurt!!!thanks much todd ps..heres a pic shana took of phil last saturday at our show!
I got to visit with Phil for a short time while he was there at the rust revival.He seemed to be in good spirits that day.I enjoyed talking with him and I know he was glad to be there and see, old friends and people, having a good time.Just look at that smile in the picture!It really makes me want to re-think how I live, just knowing this kind of thing could happen to anyone of us or even worse, our friends and family, at anytime.I will make sure and include Phil in my prayers.And Todd as bad as I hate to say this,"your the man" , It takes a true friend to stick with you pals during something like this, most people bail during the bad times or try not to get too involved.
yes reggie, i know it pains you to call me "da man" i could be there more...but theres always more i guess... thanks to all you folks for the kind words! todd
Todd, phill is a great person and was always sweet to me when he would come in the restaraunt for some breakfast with you. You are lucky to have a friend like him who never judged you . And he is lucky to have a friend like you. Keep going to see him , spend as much time with him as your heart can take. I have always loved you, and I have so much more respect for you now. For not distancing your self from him, because it is painful to you. You have a heart the size of TX . Give him a hug and tell him thanks for being your friend. And be thankful to the "big man" for giving you a friend like phil. HUGE hug from me to you, and to phil too. Let us know if you need anything.
Firstly, I'd like to send out my prayers for both Phil and you, Todd. Secondly, I want to add to the comments about what friendship can mean in times like this. You are a truly class act. I've laid in a hospital bed and I can assure you that your support is a gift to Phil. You bring what is sometimes the only positive aspect of the day to him. Taking him to the RR was pure love. Third, I do hope you've gained a little comfort and peace from sharing this with all of us. I believe the HAMB is a family and I'm very grateful be part of it. Hang tough, my BROTHER. Phil
Todd, Our prayers go out to both Phil and you. We hope that God lays his healing hands on Phil and eases his pain and suffering. Tell Phil to keep on fighting ! 41 Dave
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