WAAAAAYYYYYYY the F off topic... any HAMBers suffer from depression and anxiety???

...how do you deal with it??? we can keep it private if you like. PM me.

 

I used to stress about **** alot - until my heartattack... then I did reading on stress managment etc.

Not really what you were asking, but I sure have calmed down about ****, and don't get nearly as depressed as I used to. That ****er hurt, and I figured anything to stop it from happening again is a good thing.

If it's a problem you can change, figure out how to change it... if not, don't worry about it. That is the Reader's Digest version of what I've learned.

 

PM sent

 

Medication, exercise, going for a drive in my coupe, spending time with friends, achieving small goals.

 

been a rough week for me. thank mom's genes for the "chemical imbalance" but i got so pissed (on top of my already sullen mood) at work that i punched a steel electrical cabinet (that did'nt deserve it). i gotta get this beast under control before it ruins me completely!!!

 

No ta piss down yer back and tell you it's raining, but I am depressed the H.A.M.B. has turned into a support group for everybodys hurt feelings, poor judgement, lack of indecision, stupid mistakes and everything else not related to traditional hot rods that make their pussies hurt.

 

Dude,see the Dr and get on meds, they work, trust me! I've had not side affects whatsoever, probably saved my family from a lot of stress....
pm me if you need to talk it out..

 

I though that's why we all fooled with fast cars... to deal with the stress . Seriously though there is no problem with going to your doc and stating the situatiopn and getting meds for it. Better living thru chemicals.
Good Luck.
Shane T.

 

I have to agree.

I have very little trouble with depression, but anxiety and compulsion are my biggest problems.

I am not nor have I been diagnosed as Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. But ALL of my friends (and my wife) feel that I have it.

I had a ton of health issues when I was younger that were traced back to stress and anxiety.

Bottom line here is that I found a way to mentally get over the things that used to stress me. And I put in place a way of living that removed some of the opportunities these stressful obstacles to get in my path.

Depending on what has been "getting to you" - we might be able to sort things out. Unless you don't care to air that laundry....

Anyways, I hope someone here (or anywhere) can help you out man.

Keep your chin up.

 

this is SO not the place for this **** but alot of us are not like other people in many ways. this is about the only place i feel some what understood. i think alot of people (certainly not all) think in similar ways that i do. this is so way the F off topic that i don't blame a soul for deleteing the whole mess but i feel like an outsider to the rest of the world and this is the only place that i ever feel the least bit understood.

 

To kool kat---Dude I totally see your point. BUT, sometimes you just have to ask an O/T question. Sometime you have nowhere else to turn but your hot rod buddies. Cut the guy some slack. At least he realizes he is off topic.



And to kustombuilder... I get depressed and anxious alot. I haven't really found a good way to deal with it. I don't want to go the drug route. The only thing I do is try to search ou the root of the problem and deal with myself. The hamb tends to help alot. (thanks ryan) also just talking to a buddy or my wife. It can be embarrasing sometimes but talking is the best thing I have found.

 

I was on Zoloft for about 3 years--from '03-'06. I found out my wife was cheating and then she left me and our daughters. I was so devastated I could barely function. I didn't sleep much and I lost 30 lbs. Work gave me 3 weeks off to let the meds work.

Zoloft helps "even out" the extremes of emotions. I doesn't make you feel doped up or sluggish.

I counseled with my pastor and seriously got into God's Word-The Holy Bible. All of this combined with the prayer of many people got me back on my feet.

I hope this helps.

 

I've been battling depression and anxiety since I was about 13 or so. Always been a high stress kinda guy. I never wanted to get on meds so I tried talk therapy but without a clearly defined goal for the therapy it did not work. I just went to talk about what I thought was ******* me off. Didn't work.

After about fifteen years of self medicating with food, booze and other libations I had enough of my ****. It was either find a better way or put a .45 in my mouth. I had it all planned out down to the last detail. It was the last thing I thought of before I went to bed at night, EVERY NIGHT FOR FIFTEEN YEARS!!!! Couldn't do it.

For about a year one of my brothers had gently suggesting bio-feedback training. I suffer from chronic arthritis (nearly every joint affected) and rampant psoriasis (70% coverage at it's peak) and the thought was that the bio-feedback might help me deal with the physical pain better so that I could fight my inner demons more effectively. Truly, I didn't give a **** about the physical pain at that point.

I just wanted an end to the mental pain I was putting myself through...one way or another.

I ended up doing about sixty bio-feedback sessions (30 in the first three months was all it really took) and got my mind right, Luke.

I am not saying it was THE magic bullet, if you'll forgive that tactless pun. Other things came into my life at the same time to build me back up like a girlfriend (now my wife) and a new medication for my arthritis. But bio-feedback was a way of opening my eyes to the possibility of life without constant anxiety and depression. My eyes opened for the first time after the 13th session. I had real tangible happiness with myself for the first time.

I have been without the constant thought of suicide for six and half years now. And although I still get anxious and depressed from time to time, it is never like it was.

You might look into bio-feedback training some time. It sounds a little wacky when you hear the first explanations of it. For that reason I am not going to attempt to tell you how it works...just that it worked for me. The easiest description is that it helps your mind work with you not against you.

It is one of the strongest reasons why I am still here today.

 

I think that if this is where you have to come with **** like this you really do have problems.

 

There's nothing wrong with that bro.

I don't know you personally - but obviously you're a valued member of the board - and almost everyone here knows you in this manner.

Feeling like an outsider isn't foreign to any of us I'm sure, it's the level or degree of that feeling that YOU are feeling that may vary from what I (we) feel regularly.

I feel like I can't relate to 90% of the people that I work with. But I still have to make an effort. I sit in the lunchroom and talk almost everyday with people about **** that I hate talking about - because noone here is a "car guy". I work in an office environment BTW.

So I just try to talk to my co-workers more about them - and not golf or home repair or whatever other boring **** they want to talk about.

For me it's always trying to get to know more about the people - not their hobbies - because I can tell that when I talk cars they glaze over, so I try to do onto others as I'd have done unto myself....

I want to hear stories about crazy stuff they did as a kid or how they used to pick on their sisters, whatever man, just please don't explain to me how you like to collect stamps....zzzzz

And again since I am not sure what exactly is bothering you inparticular I can't realy offer any help.

 

get meds.

anybody close to you deserves that much. i have people i'm close to that got the help and it's changed things 100% for the better for them and the people around them.

start counseling at the same time, and work towards being drug free (at least the prescribed ones....) if you don't like the idea of meds.

there's a reason every other commercial on tv is about depression, you're not alone in it.

 

and a fine POS you are. If you can't turn to your buds who can you turn to Glad your life works so well as to never need help.PEACE
Shane T.

 

oh, my signature line kinda helps too... kinda like guiseart said, if you can't change it, don't stress over it.

 

wow. more responses than i EVER espected. thank you all and thanks for the PMs. i feel like such a ***** but i had run out of options... i've been on meds for years. still it barely seems to help at extreme times like these. it is something that i understand most people can not understand unless they have gone through it, it is a real mother****er to the extreme! i hope you understand that i've seriously put myself out there by voicing this publicly. it's not an easy thing to deal with or admit.

 

damn man, let me tell you about depression...... ive been dealing with mine for a long time. i dont have the funds for pills so i gotta ****ing deal with it..... on top of that ****ty things happen to me. and then people here on the HAMB make fun and talk bad about my work.

 

i feel like i've put my **** out on the chopping block with all of this but i felt i had no place left to turn. did'nt expect a soul to give a ****. most of my so called friends don't seem to. if it were'nt for a couple close friends i'd probably have lost it long ago.

 

I may not have a lot of post ,but I've been here with one name or another for quite a few years. Never even talked to you, but your one of the more valued people here,(one of the few i seem to remember when I read through after a few months of non internet) it's been said, just wanted to reiterate it.

I've struggled with mental "issues" for many years as well. Tired a few things, begged to be a Thorazine Zombie for a long time. Did lots of extreme stuff to try to deal with it. Still haven't found anything,and having nothing to hold dear in live except hotrods...and not having a hotrod never ****in' helps,hah.

The only thing i have found that works is to just accept it,amigo. you gotta realize you gotta problem, realize it's part of who you are,then Either Fix it, or learn to make it a positive thing. Now i know this is alot harder for things like depression and anxiety, but you gotta trust me, if a Bitter, hate fueled, me can do it, i'd like to think most people could,hah.

Asking for help is always tuff, but the way i've learned to accept is a cold "lonewolf" mentality . In this life your alone...family,friends,whatever it doesn't mean **** when you aren't stable. You gotta tear yourself apart,and crack open that mental piggy bank until you work it out on your own, no matter how hard it is.

Remember it can only make you a better, more fit person if you come out alive. That fact alone has kept me going in some of the most insane times of my life.

hope that provided...well...something.
Much Respect,amigo.

 

****in AMAZING the compasion of this place. figgured i'd be run out of town on this one but i've recieved (mostly) nothin but love from this place. God bless! you've all ****in helped beleive it or not. i'm a big sensative ****in *****. always have been and i suspect i always will be. thank you all for making life a little ****in easier.

 

No ta piss down yer back and tell you it's raining, but I am depressed the H.A.M.B. has turned into a support group for everybodys hurt feelings, poor judgement, lack of indecision, stupid mistakes and everything else not related to traditional hot rods that make their pussies hurt. kool kat Here is one guy i wouldent lift a leg if he was on fire. It takes a real big person to do what you did by putting up this post.first off my history with this topic is much longer than i care to say most of my family is manic depressive my mom was the worst. on meds she was a functioning good person so i first hand know the benifits of properly treating depression BUT extended usage usally effects the body.after 40 years of heavy lithium moms kidneys failed at 62. remember you are what you eat if this is a necessity PLEASE monitor other things carefully..depression is a m***f****and it is effected by weather ,surroundings and others who generally dont give a f***people who suffer most often are creative and intelligent and care just a little to much .learn to disconnect and weed out the bull that sets you off.you are on the right track reaching out to friends and family that help if they dont,they are not your friend to begin with .prodjects and the feeling of something compleated always helped me in some rough times.

 

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God do i ever care "too much". story of my pathetic ****in life!!!

 

Ditto........Remember, no matter how ****ty things get think about all the good things. I found myself stressing the small ****, to the point where my wonderful wife almost left me. Things are much better now. Spend more time with your family. Remember people are people and nothing you do is going to make them less retarded or change. If you suffer from these problems so will your family, not by their own choice. Do whatever it takes before it's too late. For your own health and theirs. I always try to think of my family when I get upset. They are counting on me to be there and to support them. Not to have them walking around on egg shells all the time. That's the quickest way to end up divorced, fired and broke.

 

egg shells and divorce. boy does that sound familiar!. ha ha ha, and not it a funny way.

 

So, a guy logs on here, shares his build of a cool car and thats OK.
Another guy logs on here, gets un-depressed with his buds and goes on with his cool car build and thats not OK?

Kustombuilder, I got your back. If I can add anymore to the fine advice thats been said, I'll let you know. Too much caffiene can do the depression/anxiety thing, trust me I know.

Too often more drugs are prescribed to counter-effect the chemicals floating around inside that cause the trouble in the first place.

Do you have ****ty lighting at work or in the garage? Annoying bright colors? Evaluate your environments and go from there. Some people get really set off when they recarpet their home, a kind of allergic reaction. Stuff like that. Just thinkin out loud here...................

 

Back in the 70's, I went through a divorce, hated my job and got into bad relationships. I turned to drugs and alcohol to dull the pain. Then one day, I decided enough is enough. I quit my job and changed careers. Took up cars and married the girl I always wanted to marry. Been happy ever since.

What made the big change? I realized life was too short and you'd better make this one count. Don't worry about things out of your control and change the things you can control. Another great stress reliever is weight training. Nothing like lifting with youngsters and pushing more weight then they can........my wife says I'm mean. LOL