married guys vent thread...

Like many have said, plan ahead. Tell her on Tuesday that you at planning on working on the car on Friday and ask her what she would like to do Saturday. Avoid playing with the car all day than go out to dinner that night. Time could overlap and then your in deep shit.

 

Or Tim could come into your bedroom and your relationship is in deep shit

 

This is some funny shit !
When my honey and I first got together, I took her to Maple Grove for the September National event. She complained all the way there from Baltimore. She sat down in the grandstands. The first car up was Shelly Anderson...4 1/2 second pass at 320 MPH and my honey was bitten. Drag Racing is a standard in our house.

She knows Wednesday night is car night and Saturday is all day working on the car. In exchange for my time and expense on cars, she has bought a shitload of PSL's( Personal Seat License ) at Raven's stadium, goes to every home game and turns a 3 hour football game into a 15 hour day....I'm not going to complain..got the NFL Sunday ticket on the tube, TIVO for the game...and you guessed it, another 12 hours of garage time......pretty good swap if you ask me.

 

You just haven't been married long enough, give it several more years and you'll both be happy with time spent apart. Two people can only be around each other so much for so long. I've been married once, for 32 yrs, we get alomg fine, but we long ago lost that feeling of having to spend ever free moment together....Give it time

 

the calendar works for me for road trips, swap meets and drag races. i rarely take the kids to these events since i'm the one walking slow and oogling over all the cool shit. they get bored. as far as car stuff at home, i usually work at nite. me, the shop lites, tunes and usually the brew get stuff done. no interruptions, nobody to bother you. that way she sleeps and i dont lay awake at nite thinking of all the stuff i could be getting done right then!

 

I am fortunate that my wife of 20 years give me space to have a car hobby; she knew that going in. She would actually rather have me outside in the garage rather than underfoot in the house. We have 2 kids. She is a career woman, so she likes to have her own personal time as well. I would truly be unhappy if we had a conflict about cars. Occasionally, she mentions selling my Jaguar that I've had for 35 years, and it makes me sullen and resentful whenever she suggests it, so she pretty much knows to stay away from that topic.

We never argue about anything...life is too short. That's how it was with my Dad and Mom...fought all the time; divorced by the time I was 19. I swore I would never have a marriage like that, and I don't.

What? Sell THIS?!!

 

no problems here , after 29 years of marriage , the wife loves cars as well and has no problem with my hobbies or helping out , life is good ...

 

Good catch. You miss one "e" and everything goes to hell. Tim=Time

 

Beautiful Jaguar mcload.

dv

 

Sorry cant help ya., Been with the same woman for 18 years and she has NEVER given me any grief about my hobbies. Even when she blew her knee out helping me 2 weeks ago in the garage all she could think about was if the truck cab was OK. I'm very lucky.....

 

i set a side 2 nights a week to work on my projects,usally friday night and saturdays,that is strickly car time!

 

Happily divorced for 8 years now. Last girlfriend of 2+ years finally had it and is gone too. Now I get all the garage time I want, and never any arguments.

 

sorry no b@##$ from me . my wife lets me work at the shop when ever i want but i also know to spend time at home. i now have a free pass for the rest of my life to be down there working full time on my own stuff. she is a lawyer and is making good cash already. so i have no compaints.

 

Tell her this....

Guys need their space and time too.
Wouldn't you rather I be in the garage working on the car or....

at a strip bar with all the other guys that get nagged to death by their obsessive controlling wives.

or always be late coming home... delaying the pain and suffering

 

But he's GONE 6-8 months out of the year...

 

I've never been married so I don't have this problem. A buddy on another forum does tho'. His signature reads -

"My wife and I had words about my truck . . . I didn't get to use mine."

 

It's genetic.

When she says "I do", what she means is what's mine is mine and what is yours is mine too. There is no "us" it's all hers!

 

Simple do what i did.Buy the wife a finished rod and in the meantime make her feel like shit becuase your is not finished.You gotta beleive me I could not make this crap up

 

Last year my girlfriend of six years actualy took all the keys to the garage, locked my ass right out...lol

 

i just go out to the shop. 1 you don't have to hear it 2 you get to work on your car

 

Geez!

I read through most of these posts and I'm realizing how lucky I am. After almost 27 years of marriage my wife usually says things like. "Don't forget to leave some time so you can work on the car"

She has her own little gig on the side picking up scrap metal and such so she "gets it" as far as cars are concerned.

Hey, who elses wife would have spent their 25th wedding anniversary chasing sprint car races in their motorhome? Thanks for making me feel like one lucky SOB.

The only advice I can give you is that you have to go along to get along. You gotta reach a compromise early on or else it will always be a battle.

Good luck

 

Exactly, that will change with time too..........Enjoy what you're doing now, it will all be different, and just as enjoyable in the future also, been there done that

 

You guys crack me up.. I must be spoiled .. Sue and I have been together for 18 years.. We met at work and both were going thru a divorce.. I managed to keep my 29 model a tudor but after a trip to the very first nsra nats in louisville i put it up for sale cause i was tired of living in a pop rivet palace.. A few years later i was bored and we had bought a house and no money still but she and my dad found me a 30 model a to build.. We never looked back and I can go to the garage every night if I want.. She also loves riding on the back of the harley and sprint ,midget and super mod races... Yup she is a keeper.
DAVE

 

Some of you guys have real shitty marriages, I guess.

I've been married to the same wonderful, car crazy woman for 42 years and just hope I die first, 'cause it wouldn't be anywhere as much fun without her. She drove tractors & trucks before she could legally drive a car and has never given me grief about my second passion (cars) after my family, but the family has ALWAYS come first.

 

I think alot of us are in the same boat, I've been with my wife 16 yrs, and it has taken me 16yrs to comunicate first what I want to do ,that doesn't conflict with her plans on the days I want to work on my car, her car, or a friends car. and if theres no kids sports going on that day, I'm good...... tell she changes her mind

 

My standard line during a first date when talk gets around to free time activities, is: "I'm a car guy". If they explain how they have changed their own plugs, or generally can intelligently can carry on a conversation about past mechanical repairs they've done or had done, they are keepers. If they say "Oh, that's nice...so I can call you if I ever need work-" RUN.

 

My wife and I have a date every Friday night. She works at and loves her job. I work at and love mine. I dont interfere with hers, she doesn't interfere with mine.
I love the time I get to spend with her, and she must be OK with me- It's been 25 years...
Reading these posts , I guess I'm a lucky guy!

 

Yeah I know what you're talking about after 4 years of marraige. My wife was like that in the beginning but after some time she found more hobbies and girl friends that like to get together for scrap booking and stuff. Now it is 13 years later and I have to just give some notice if I need to get something finished in the garage otherwise I work when ever I want except the kids always come first rule and I even bought a huge 6,500 sq ft. Hotrod building barn because I take care of the family but hotrodding is not a bad second. It's more than I could've ever dreamed of and couldn't have done it alone.

 

After 2 divorces, I think that I've hit on the best solution, to keep saturday as "date night". We do something every week, even if it's just renting a movie & having a few drinks.
That allows me to have all day saturday & part of sunday to play in the garage. The GF respects that deal, but sometimes I still have to put up with a home cooked dinner on sunday too.

 

I can't complain..........I'm not allowed too............

Actually, she is glad when I'm working on my stuff..........she knows where I am...........