maybe you guys can help me the way you have helped others...

Hey Brother, The Roadburners of Omaha are all sending out some healing vibes. This is a time for reflection and remembering only the good times you had together. This sweet angel is now looking out for you from above. Sometimes one gets overwhelming surges of loss, this is natural. Do your best to think good thoughts and know she is in good hands and at peace. We all care and will continue to be supporting you with prayers and positive thoughts. -Sololobo

 

sorry to hear about your loss.. i saw you in one of the HAMB chops and you have alot of really good friends on here, and a even better sense of humor... be strong buddy - i know i dont know you personally... but know that you will be in me and my families prayers... feel better bud

 

Back on Dec. 16, 2006 I lost one of my older brothers. We weren't so close either in the way we thought, and he was 7 years older than me as well, but he was still my brother and I loved him. I was away from home at the time and I came here for support from my HAMB bros. Thanks again.

He's gone and hardly a day goes by that I do not think of him. I know how you feel, I had wanted to ride my Harley with him and his Springer. As we were getting older, we were bridging the gap, too late as it turned out. The last time I saw him was at a Thanksgiving family reunion, not even a month before he died. I will be eternally grateful to God for that. There was a pinochle championship that my brother-in-law and I won, my brother Jay and one niece were the team we beat to get into the championship. I remember that card game vividly, I realize that may sound silly to some, but it is one of the last memories I have of my brother. R.I.P. Jaybird.

Time helps heal you, do your best to cry it out, she was your sister man. Nobody would think any less of you for showing your emotions. You deserve it. I have found that tears really aren't for the dead, but for the living because we miss them so. You miss your sister, let it out. God bless you and your family.

 

Bryan, this really shook me, I didn't have any idea what you were going through. I do believe you did the right thing by coming here and sharing your grief.
One thing you might consider is printing out this whole thread and rereading it when the going is the toughest. There have been some really good bits of advice and shared experiences expressed her and rereading them from time to time might just be the medicine that will get you through the lows that are sure to come in the furure. And for the crying, don't believe ANYTHING you ever heard about real men not crying. The oppposite is actually the truth. Sometimes there is just no subs***ute for a good cry, it just cleanses the senses and let you get a fresh perspective. Another good therapy is do something REALLY physical, even to the point of exhaustion. when all of your energy is spent your head will be clearer and you have to pick yourself up and carry on. My best thoughts are out to you and I'll be praying you find some peace concerning your sister, she's watching, make her proud.

Frank

 

That's a bummer man.I know about that delayed reaction ****. Time does heal most wounds though.I do hope it's a short time for you.
How's the Camaro coming along?

 

I dont know what else to add, except lots of good advice on here, make sure you take care of yourself man.
Anything you need from here, let us know. Peace and comfort to you, your family and her friends.

 

bryan,

my condolences, man.

i'm not smart enough to dole out advice in times like this; or to say the right thing. but i can pray for you and your family so that's what i'll do. that and keep you in my thoughts.

my son-in-law's sister (23 years old) died in another needless car crash a couple of years ago and although it took quite a while, in time he has grown to accept it and every day that goes by it bothers him less and less. he was hurtin' a LOT when it first happened, though. he's a bad-*** marine, b-t-w, but that doesn't make it hurt any less.

 

Dude, I just saw this. I'm really sorry man. The best thing you can do, and so can everyone else reading this, is to make sure the people who are in your life know what they mean to you. Any of us can check out at any time and it's best not to leave love unresolved. I've lost my mom four years ago but we knew it was happening and had time to work things out. It really helped. At 36, I think I'm pretty young to have already lost six of my nine best childhood friends and the seventh is in the final stages of pancreatic cancer right now. It's freaky. I've started going to church again when I'm home and I gotta tell ya, it rips my heart out every week. I haven't been yet where the tears didn't well up. I don't know how to handle grief. I wish I did. All I can do is try to live in a way that there won't be many questions when I'm gone. I'm betting that's all your sister would ask of you from here forward. I also believe that if you do that, you'll see her again. Prayers with ya man.

 

So sorry for your loss.

I guess my only piece of advice is this: Celebrate her life and not her death. I have a close friend who lost his younger brother and every year the family gathers to memorialize the day he was killed. Every year they start the grieving process again. It is very painful for them.

In sharp contrast, I have another friend who lost a child. Rather than celebrate the day of her death, they choose to celebrate her birth and life, remembering those things that gave her life meaning.

The difference is the way one family has moved on and the other is locked in grief. I don't know, but maybe this perspective can help you too.

 

Very sorry for your loss, and so young too. Dont beat your self up..siblings can always have their moments when they are not close to each other, what ever the reason. Its obvious that you love her..trust in your heart..she knows that.

 

I am so sorry DIRTYT. That is way to ****ing young for someone to p***. Don't be afraid to chew peoples ears off while your are grieving. Talking is really the best help one can have in a situation like this. Judgin by the smile on her face in the picture, she has not wasted a moment here on earth. That's the smile that just infects all who where privileged enough to know her. God Bless and my thoughts are with you and your family.

 

Etch Sweet Danielle on the back window of your build.

 

Sorry for your loss. Let it rain. Prayers and condelences to you and yours. jim.

 

man I'm sorry to hear about your sister. i cried like a baby last night. I miss my son and wife so much.
I feel your pain. The HAMB has helped me lots. I would have never thought it would but i get on here and read all the post and next thing i know 3-4 hours go by. they say time heals all pain, it don't it just makes it easier to get up the morning and start a new day. remember all the good times and talk about her often.

 

I have never and maybe will never meet you. But I will pray for you and your family.
Remington

 

Iv'e read this whole thread, nothing I can really add. Hang in there, vent your emotions. My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours, be strong bro.

 

Hang in there man. I hope I never have to go through that.

****, I better call my own sister. I haven't spoken to her in a couple weeks.

 

Bryan, your sister sounds like a real gem of a person. Thanks, for letting us know of your loss. Many good folks here, with words touched by this p***age in their own lives. Writing, asking, good stuff all of it. Al Green too,...my main man!

 

So sorry for your loss.....my families thoughts headed your way....stay strong.

 

My condolences to you and your family, sending Margueritte's too.

You get too busy right after it happens to feel anything, just handling the problems, learning and doing things you probably have never had to learn or do... And hoped you'd never have to.

 

you and yours have my prayers

 

Condolences, Bro...

I will raise a gl*** for her tonight.

 

Our deepest sympathies on the loss of your beloved Sis....

Our thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.....

Most sincerely,

Ace & Kali

 

DirtyT, hope things are better today.I've been thinking about you since my 1rst reply last night,just letting you know,we're all still here for you. Someday, hopefully we can all meet each other. I'll look forward to that day,then you can personally tell me,some of the great memories of your sister. There is no doubt, from your post,that you loved her very much.

 

Thank you all very much... it was 4 weeks ago today that she past away... im doing much better today i just need to stay busy.

 

good to hear buddy. whatcha workin on these days?

 

not much to say other than - it does get better... give it time. And you are supposed to be a little pissed/sad, it's part of the process.

 

my 41 plymouth coupe on a 87 dakota ch***is. with 3 window conversion, and layes running boards on the deck.

 

still got the plymouth bug huh? haha...got pix?

 

....Hang in there.....youv'e just seen all that have replied....ther's more prayin & supporting you that haven't replied. Thats the power of the Hamb "Family".