There is too much Death and Dying on the HAMB

When ever something good comes along people have a need to be part of it, even if they don't understand it. The less they have going for them the greater the need to belong. There is so much great stuff here it's worth wading through some crap to get to it. It's even worth having fng under my name and taking stuff from someone who needs to use his time on this board,and what ever is under his name, as proof that he knows something. We will never all agree, even on what is traditional, partly because there are different traditions. If I don't want to read a thread I don't. There's plenty to read, I'll never catch up! Thank you Ryan and all of you others who make this place happen. This board is important. I don't know any of you, but if you die I hope someone will post it here.

 

Check out "Bookz" post history. You wouldn't know that he was even into traditional hot rodding by the threads he replies to. All of it is just drama stuff. That's the route of the problem! Replying to the bad stuff when there is so much good to reply to!

Good move on the other moderation decision. That guy was loony, which is fine if you are actually into hot rods, but not so if you are just into running people down.

I'm done now. Excuse the rant. I was just kind of amazed to see someone actually complain about content on here. I've never had it so good.

 

Or one mans disbelief!

 

What is wrong with people posting thier feelings about people passing or venting some of the pain they are in ? maybe they don't have any family and the HAMB is it. If you see its going to be one of "those posting " don't open it, I don't read everything posted..

 

Honor and reverence for the recently dead need not be a "buzzkill".
Celebrate ones recent passing, especially if they have lived a very full and succesfull life.
I just went to the wake of my best friends father. An AirForce Lt Col that few many missions in VietNam.
I was expecting a tearfull re union of old friends and family.
It was not. It was a celebration of his life and carreer and family.
I knew him for over 25 years but didnt know all there was to him.
Sad as it was to see him go and knowing the loss to his family, it was the rememberance of many good times that carried the day.

 

Some of us are learning what is probably appropiate and what is not, even when we have been here a while. Bit like a thread I started re my new tatt - of my Duece Coupe, but after some drama it was closed and I now know to post that sort of thing in the art thread where it more rightfully belonged. This, like all learning is on going process, its just a pity some folks know it all already.

 

It sounds like you're in this for everyone else. If that is the case, maybe this isn't the place for you. If you like what you're looking at, then hang around a while.

 

I have twin 23 month old grandsons, James and Joseph. James was born healthy; Joseph was born with VATER syndrome, a really shitty combination of serious, life-threatening birth defects. I posted a thread on the "evil" eBay on April 12, 2006, asking for prayers because the doctors didn't think Joseph was going to live. Since then, almost two years, over 1980 posts have been made on a thread where people all over the US and Canada have prayed for Joseph. Right now Joseph is in intensive care at Arkansas Children's Hospital. He has been at Children's Hospital this time since January 8, and since birth, over 40% of his 23 months. He is in very, very critical condition. Just this evening, on the way home from the hospital, I got a call from a friend on eBay who has made a trip from Birmingham to Little Rock to see my grandsons. It means the world to me that he cares enough to pray, to make a trip to see my grandsons, to give me a call at 9 p.m. on a Friday night to see how we're doing.

I know this is a traditional hotrod forum. I know religion, politics, etc, are not allowed. But I also know that human beings are far, far more important than any thread about rods and customs. Sadly, I don't post about my grandsons here, because there are enough assholes here to make it not worth posting; they'll bitch and complain that its off topic.

Ultimately, this is a site about live human beings who share a common interest, namely traditional rods and customs. They're internet friends, who ask questions, share ideas, and share their love of our lifestyle. But they're also people who bleed real blood, who lose loved ones like fathers & sons, and ask for prayers when someone is hurting and in real need.

The very notion that such topics should be off topic or not allowed demonstrates nothing more than callous apathy, an attitude that says, "To hell with you and your problem, your suffering, your pain; we're all about what wheels to use, what headlights to use, etc."

When Ratstar posted about his twins, I prayed for them. When others have posted about losing loved ones, I prayed. When there were posts about the passing of Boyd and Lil' John, I prayed for their families. What's wrong with that? Are we not allowed to do that because some atheist will get pissed off?

It's your site, Ryan, and you can, obviously, do whatever you want. But in today's world, people need all the love and support they can get, and it will reflect well on the HAMB and the people therein if that love and support is allowed to happen, even if it's "off topic."

 

Sorry man, but that is just not true.

As one of the Mods that Closes these Threads now, I can tell you that we struggle with these things.
Because of the terrible situations people suffer with.

And we Close them instead of Deleting them so the other users still can find them and send P/Ms if they want.

I can honestly tell you that Closing these threads is not a pleasant task, but we have agreed to do this because there were just too many of them.

Not everybody will agree that these Threads are being closed.

But we dont do this out of Callousness...

 

My 2 cents. I google 36 Ford axle, a HAMB article comes up. I google Buick drum, a HAMB article comes up. I have also "lurked" for quite some time. And now I am a FNG. So I post an ad, someone has to be a smartass and post something to "get a spittin' contest" and my "want ad" gets pulled, or someone hijacks the topic...so what? IN THE BIG PICTURE, THE HAMB HAS A TREMENDOUS DEPTH OF KNOWLEDGE AND HELPFUL MEMBERSHIP OUT THERE. It's worth putting up with some OT or smartass occasionally because the B-U-L-K of the posts are so beneficial. The ad-mins are right, if it is not a topic for you, CLOSE THE THREAD AND MOVE ON.

 

To Ryan and the moderators who've responded to what I wrote, I appreciate your explaining your viewpoint. It helps me see things from your perspective. Thanks.

 

A PM would be nice...

 

I know Im just a FNG but why dont they just put a obituary section?(simple enough)..I know, Id like to know when a Hot Rod legand dies,and their story if I dont know who they are. Im sure others would too..This site is like a news paper full of good and bad news..
As for people responding to Death posts...I guess Im an atheist too cause I dont beleive in that stuff either.but if a simple respone of god bless you and ill pray for you makes someone feel better then when that shit happens so be it...Its about RESPECT fuck nuts!..Some of you assholes should be embarassed that your pea brains cant understand that.
Ah there is nothing like makin'new freinds on the H.A.M.B

Also if its a death post Like My buddy Joe Shmo the farmer died I really dont care to hear about it....40000 members,this would turn into a death post...Keep to Hot Rodders