Today I had to sell my 63 Falcon Convertible for no good reason. It wasn't because my wife was sick, kid needed braces, or anything like that. The reason was I was LAZY and didn't take care of my businesses like I should have. I put WAY too much trust into my partner, and now I am paying the price. I sold my car to a friend, and nearly cried when I took it to him, not because I cared that much for the car, but because it was the first time in my life that I failed, I failed myself and my family. I got lazy, content, and now I am paying the price. I had to close one of my restaurants, and am not looking foreward to the **** I will go thru for that. I guess my post was meant to hopefully open someone's eyes, cause a business can go to **** real fast, one bad week takes 3 weeks to recover. Don't be lazy, don't do partners, don't ignore your problems. Today is the first time in my life that I had to admit that I failed, and it is not a good feeling at all.....I hope this makes someone think..........Fido
You're only human, Bro...if I cried over all MY failures...I'd drown! Crank up Billy Joel's "Second Wind", dust yerself off and get back at it! If a true friend has the car...he'll let ya get it back when times are better for ya!
At least you had the guts to admit some of your faults. Sounds like you partner had some too.Yes life ****s sometimes,but you learn good lessons from all the ****. I hope you can pull through ok,maybe buy your car back,if it means somthing to you. We're here for you, vent it out. best of luck, glenn
You know, it wasn't that the car meant something, cause it didn't. I think my friend knew it bothered me, cause he didn't call me, like he usually does every day. I think he is expecting me to back out, but that can't happen. The part that bothers me is needing to sell something to pay the bills. My business is the tops in the area, noone can compare. I am just pissed at myself for being content, and trusting someone else with something that I have so much invested in. I have my house, and some rental property as collateral for the business that just closed, and I am reopening in a new location, but it just ****s when you let yourself down, and i have never had to face failure before, and it is not a good feeling at all.......Just when you think you have life by the balls, the roof falls on you.........Fido
I can't say I know what you are feeling, cause every business is different. My business failed last year due to my business partner falling in love and just walking away. Just do your best and always read what Fat Hack has to say. When you learn from your mistakes, you are guaranted not to repeat them.
I guarantee you Ive been through worst **** than you... Don't cry over the past,dont beat yourself up over it because in life somethings are just out of our control,no matter how hard and how much you try.Life is dodging and overcoming **** thats thrown at us.Some have it worse than others,and theres always someone worse off than you.Seriously dont try and ****yze it,i shoulda ,woulda coulda..It doesnt matter now...learn from what you been through and take it with you in the next of evolution of your life....................Now go kick some ***!!
It's not a failure on your part,its just another lesson to learn from( no partners). Don't waste your time mentally kicking your own ***, there is always someone around willng to do it for you. There are days I would like to sell out and go to work for somebody but then I would have to put up with their ****. Don't let the *******s grind you down!
The restaurant business is brutal.... You aren't alone.... It could be a lot worse. You could be marcus.
business for your self is rough. I have lot's of family that own their own. I know it keeps getting repeated, just not is so many words, but you really do just have to roll with the punches and, "...keep on keeping on."
<font color="green"> Something I heard awhile back. "Things always seem bleakest at the moment of occurance...but at least we ain't got locusts." - Yamana from Barney Miller Sorry, just had to try to make you smile. Things will get better and you may even remember this in a positive light someday. Just keep pluggin away. </font>
Its that DAMN low carb **** isn't it? Just tell your customers its LOW CARB....they'll never know the difference. Keep your chin up. It could be worse.... You could be like me... A failure that WILL NOT sell his car. actually I did sell some parts and pieces lately. And bought MORE parts with the money. I'm a dog.
<font color="red"> Hey man don't feel bad ...you have the guts to go and do one of the hardest things ever...Having your own biz....I want to open a bar and grille .....meanwhile I am at a job I absolutly HATE and a mortgage and debt hanging over me...You WILL come thru and excell at this....I will tell you what I tell kids that work for me>>>>>>>>>Find something you TRUELY love and become excellent at it , if you do you will be successful! R E D M E AT </font>
Go easy on yourself man. It's a long ride and there will be plenty of hills and valleys along the way. I recently met up with a business partner I hadn't seen in almost 35 years. He and I started a small speed shop with a $5K loan from his grampa back in '67. I left to go to LA (to be near the fuel dragster action) and he stayed on. Now he's worth millions, and I'm still working for wages (not to mention I sold my gorgeous '37 Chevy g***er for $600 to finance the trip!). **** like that happens to us all. Remember, the losers aren't the ones who stumble along the way, they're the ones who don't pick themselves up and go on. Regarding partners - The best advice I ever had there was from an old dope dealer who told me "If you don't NEED a partner, don't have one."
Something I learned early is that when it comes to business, a partnership is a sinking ship. Words to live by.
its temporary. Here's an example of a bad day on today's date. On July 1st,1916 the battle of the Somme was fought in ww1. The British army lost 50,000 men in that one day on the battlefield, 20,000 of them in the first half hour. That's what I call a bad day. Few people even know why WW1 was fought, millions died, thier names long forgotten. Enjoy your life! Get over the past and move on, and remember,,,,Paso is only 11 months away.
I hear ya brother. I'm in the restaurant business too, and I got royally screwed by a partner last year. I've managed to keep the business afloat, barely at times. The stress and ******** cost me my marriage, and may yet cost me my house. I haven't touched my Shoebox in over a year. I'm still proud of my business, my staff, and what I've accomplished. That's the nature of entrepreneurship. ****, I haven't got a nickle to my name anymore, and I keep eyeing a boarded up old bar near me that is screaming to have a new coat of paint and a row of Harleys parked out front... Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. Helen Keller Don't worry about the car, there will be more. Be good to your family and friends. Your partner will find out what kharma is all about some day. Good luck man.
Hey dude, it's all relative. There are a zillion people out there never had the balls, brains or drive necessary to even open a business selling bootlaces, yet you own and run several restaurants. It's hardly time to call yourself a loser or failure! Get a grip and take a step forward. Life ain't a rehearsal, so best no waste any more of it wallowing in self pity and loathing.
Some say in business, "You're only as good as your last deal." I think that's wrong... It should be "You're only as good as your NEXT deal." Don't let one failier define you. Brush it off ans find a way to kick *** the next time. Life's too short.
Im a veteran of small bussiness[29 years...... this was just a wake up call- treat it as such and do what it takes to get past it.....Believe in yourself and project that outwardly image and it will impress others. It will be a better day friend.......FORWARD!
[ QUOTE ] Something I learned early is that when it comes to business, a partnership is a sinking ship. Words to live by. [/ QUOTE ] I second that one. Got out in January before things went evil - I feel damn lucky. - Sorry things are going ****ty brother.
If you had the cajones to open your own bidness, you got the cajones to bounce back. A 63 Falcon is a cheap price to pay for one of life's most important lessons...NO PARDNERS! BTW, one of my many brothers-in-law had a Kings resturaunt in a southwest city and he went ***s up...felt terrible and came home with his tail between his legs. He fought his way back and began with a franchise in a local Arbys...built it up and bought another, and another. After they all became paying businesses, he sold 'em off one by one and found his real niche was in knowing how to buy distressed businesses. Now, he has an office and does nothing but consulting work for businesmen wanting to buy distresed businesses...makes a killing! You go, boy!
You guys rock!!! I have thougt alot, and no way in hell am I gonna give up. I guess it is still better than answering to someone. It's definately a mistake that won't be made again. Thanks for the encouraging words......Scott And if you are ever traveling on 79 thru W V, stop in and say hey....
Hang in dude, you'll be much wiser from it. if I told you what my former partner did, you wouldnt even believe it.I've got so many knives in the back at my business I probably look like a pincushion...one was over five years ago and I still cant even talk about it. I hope I never cross paths with the s*** because I really dont to go to prison...Oh and cant forget the most recent, my sister in law (was the bookkeeper) who stole over 7 grand with forged checks...
So should I tell my friend who wanted to buy the car that it's gone?They have been trying to get ahold of you. You should really let them know. Bill
"The British army lost 50,000 men in that one day " Yeah. One thing I really retained from some limited exposure to Army Ranger training long ago was that any problem that leaves you alive and moving is really trivial in the big picture and fear of anything that isn't going to kill you is wasted. You're alive, you now know more than before the disaster, you have your friends and family and the future. Where you want to be is still there, right in front of you a bit, not behind you.
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