My son hung himself this morning

Terribly sorry to hear this, RIP to your son and best wishes to you and your family.

 

First, let me say I'm very sorry.

It is very normal to feel like you don't know what to do at a moment like this. How could you?

Just over six years ago my best friend killed himself. I was in a state of shock for weeks/ months over it. Everything felt like some terrible dream I couldn't wake up from. It's very difficult beause there are always going to be so many questions you can never get answers to- there will be questions you will ask yourself too. I used to wonder if I had done 'this' or 'that' differently if I could have changed their decision or stopped this from happening.
The important thing to remember is that this is not your fault. You didn't do this to them and don't apply blame within. It was a terrible decision that person made at a desperate time.

Like the others have said- surround yourself with people that know/love you and knew your son. They will be feeling the same way you are and you will be of comfort to each other.

Jay

 

So very sorry to hear this. I cannot imagine the hurt of loosing a son or daughter. If you are not already a member of the HAMB Old Farts Club, join us, we're good listeners.

 

I don't believe Parenting Quality or Lack of leads to this kind of thing. Yes it's difficult to say the least to be the Parent. If you don't already know why He did this you never will. Don't beat yourself up over what's done. You can't control the Grieveing and You'll never Forget Him. In time you will find a Place for his memory to live. I'm in No way a Religious person, My belief is "Religion is for those to week to stand on there Own" However,,I have had many a Conversation with this Invisable Force. Best of luck in Finding your way.
The Wizzard

 

My condolences on your loss.

 

Man, Thats hard. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I agree with what Zeke said "Dont try to understand it. Dont blame yourself."
No father is responible for what his 40 year old son does. He was a man in control of his own life.
All you can do is love and appreciate your friends and family that are around you now.

 

I feel for you. Don't blame yourself though, I was his decison.

 

You have my deepest sympathy for your profound loss.

 

My heart goes out to you and your family!

Pat

 

I can't even begin to think how that would feel being a father myself. Don't be so hard on yourself, we fathers tend to blame ourselfs in times of family crisis. Find comfort from family, friends and most certainly from the good people on this board. Our prayers are with you.

 

...i feel like i was punched in the stomach. that is a tremendous blow. please take my deepest sympathy and have hope in that you can find strength to pull yourself and your family through this darkest time.

-marty

 

Condolences and prayers to you and yours.

Some things are beyond our control and we never quite truly know what is going on in someones mind.

Vaya con Dios

 

first off, i'm really sorry for your lost. but you should'nt put it in your head that it's all your fault it might not have been you it could've been a bad day or something happened. ok

 

I so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

 

I agree completely.......I'm sure you were a better father than you think, at this moment. My sincere condolences...

 

I'm so sorry - there are things we cannot understand. All the best to you.

 

It really helps to talk about it

 

I am so sorry to hear this,Prayers are comming your way from here for shure.
Not to get too deep,but i had to deal with family members with severe depression issues.
The one thing it taught me was I had no control of there actions or things that brought them to it.
You were a better father than you think,and never blame yourself for anothers choice. Talk to someone,ANYONE it puts things in place somhow when it comes out loud. This was so so sad to hear,again im so sorry for your loss.

 

Very sorry to hear of your loss. Many pastors and chaplains are trained to help deal with these unthinkable situations. Find one to talk to, don't blame yourself. It's hard to know what's going on in others minds. You have my prayers. Wayne P.

 

Condolences and Prayers from N. Florida ...

 

My deepest condolences, as other have said please find someone you can talk to about your pain. You don't have to go through this alone.

 

I am really sorry to hear this.

 

I am so very very sorry to hear of your loss. You're going to need the support of friends and family right now even though it may be hard to talk about it. Please check out the H.A.M.B. Chapel there's people in there that you know that will stand along side of you.

Grace & peace,

Terry

 

My deepest sympathy to you and those close to your son. I can't offer first hand knowledge of how to cope, but when you're in pain the best thing to do is to turn to those you love for support. Maybe speaking to a priest or rabbi would be beneficial. Again, terribly sorry for your loss and you'll be in my thoughts

 

I don't know what to say at a time like this .

I'M SORRY.

Please don't carry this by yourself ,you and your wife will need the strenght of
a greater being then all of us put together...

I do know that GOD will help ,all you have to do is ask for it and he will comfort you..

All the H.A.M.B. BROTHERS AND SISTERS will pray for you ,

and With God Speed for your son,we will all get through this with you....

If their is anything that I can do ,please just ask,

Your friend ................
Chuck............

 

sorry to hear this my blessings to all involved

 

Sorry for you loss, we will pray for you and your family.

 

I'm sorry to hear this, your in my thoughts and prayers, be strong.

 

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Please realize that you can't change the past, so don't dwell on whether or not you were a good father; as others have said you were likely better than you think. Find support in counseling or faith; you already started reaching out here, which is a good step.

 

I'm sorry to hear this. Don't blame yourself, you couldn't possibly have know something like this would have happened.