Nads you are a pessimist after my own heart... Or maybe me after you? I dunno, but after reading this and your flame-bashing, "flames*****" thread, I want to be your sidekick. I think your wife and my girl share the same mysterious genetic code. I learned a long time ago not to try to figure it out. I just laugh when I hear guys saying, "man I just don't understand my girl" - To which I reply, "god sakes man, why are you trying? - have a seat."
Don't let me fool you into thinking that life is bliss in the house of Broman. We fight. It runs hot and cold. Sometimes we go months without a tiff, other times it's just week after week. Nads is right about the unpredictablity of a womans mood. I can't for the life of me figure out what will set her off. That's half the problem too. I am always setting her off never visa-versa...funny how that works out, huh? It's like I am always wrong and when she is******ing about something and if I start fighting back she pulls the "ohh, you always have to be right don't you" card......what? Point is - I try to see it from her perspective and I try not to be selfish. That, plus we always know that it will work out in the end. And I am always right......
[ QUOTE ] I sold all my cars for her, she always got the money. I always did everything she wanted to do, if I wanted to do something or go out with freinds it was a fight. When i met her her brother lived old cars and she said she liked them too...yea when they aint owned by her man and costs her shopping money! I bought her a car...she sold it. I always dropped everything for her, even to watch the kids when SHE went out with her freinds. wish I kept the cars and kicked her greedy manipulative**** to the curb a long time ago! Don't get me started...I could write a novel [/ QUOTE ] I think your ex and my ex are the same girl.
all my ex use to do was work on cars and sell***** on ebay and it drove me nuts!!! I love cars,I loved helping him work on his, thats when I bonded with him most, I have a deep and sincere intrest in them, but when it came to going to the recycling center on Valentines day well, I drew the line there, its one thing to be a parts junky and another to just be trashy. Its important to not neglect those around you and become overly involved in your own thing. Anyone opening up a caraholics anonymous soon?I'm just glad my new guy is able to balance (and share) all of his loves, family, cars and me.(awww I'm so sappy...)
sooo I couldn't resist... I am the other side. I am the garage widow. yes!!!! my husband like many of you out there have this passion for rust that you eat sleep and breath. but I'm not askin for much.. 1. when you happen to be watching tv with us- don't hog the discovery channel/speed zone - I would like to watch desperate housewives 2. we bought you the calender with the cheap******** it - please scribble our birthday somewhere with in the week of the actual day. 3. try to explain why funding the alcohol for this project is more than whats actually getting done. no but honestly as much as I hate cleaning the grease marks off the refridgerator door and having to tell you its past 10pm can you stop grinding, its his passion thats what attracted me to him. please remember that as your wife we have been watching you grow through this hobby, watching you get excited that you finally have a garage, pissed off you can't figure out*****, when you do figure it out and come inside and just ramble about it. so we married you because your a bit rough around the edges, well you married us because we have of bit of fire under our****. and for that I'll come out to the garage and have a beer with you.
[ QUOTE ] Don't go spreading rumors...hehehe [/ QUOTE ] What? That women for the most part confound and confuse men and are prone to go off for no logical reason? Hell that aint a rumor, thats a stone cold fact! (except in your case )
Things automotive don't cause your relationship to deteriorate, but they may facilitate that loss. It is you that allows your relationship to pass, by either neglect or being an****hole or anywhere in between. The lack of communication is where it all dies. You can have your cake and eat it too if you can communicate with your woman. Go on the internet and look for Dr. Chapman's book "The Five Love Languages". I highly recommned it, helped save my marriage, I was on the way to divorce and turned things around with it's help.
I'd like to offer some advice as a man who has made a mistake. If you are single, stay single. Women change after marriage regardless of who they seem to be. Just live together or something. If there's no commitment she will behave herself. Don't even fool around with a woman who isn't into cars an equal amount as you are. Test her to make sure she's genuine. Take her to every car event every weekend for your dates. If she ever complains dump her. See if she can list all of the displacements for the Chevy small block, or some other article of common knowledge. If she can't, move on. It seems harsh until you learn that women are all just manipulators and users. When you know how women really are, then you figure out that you really are just keeping things even.
I hope i didn't kill the thread. I should have kept it simple. Just remember that if you give up too much of yourself you aren't being fair to either of you. You have to be true to who you really are.
women are people and people manipulate and use each other, point blank. It's being able to find the people (men & women) that abstain from using and manipulating you personally. This goes for freinds and wives. I know it sounds harsh but it's a cold hard fact of life. Human nature is what it is and both men and women practice this little gem of a trait all day everyday. You would'nt keep a guy freind that uses you any more than you would keep any women around that does the same. And women for that matter look at things the same way, just in a more precise yet somewhat skeewed scope. Meaning that if a guy thinks that his freind/girl freind/wife is*****ing him around, he'll just clean house. A women on the other hand if feeling used will then mentally switch gears and you WILL see the switch. Most of the times it aint pretty either. Communication is KEY! and if you trully clash on many different fronts, best to cut your losses and move on. That goes for both****es and any relationship by the way. But thats just my ¢.02
Don't get me wrong. Good women are out there, lord knows I had just about given up until I found my baby. But the good vs. bad does seem to be a bit disproportionete (sp)
please guys(for you women bashers)...you all have issues too time to time, but if we have an issue, all of a sudden we're the bad one?? yes we are difficult, but so are you, so there..hehe....time to time you'll find someone right, but if you found the wrong one, thats your own fault(first vibe/gut feeling/first conversation you should know if you might like her)! testing her on cars isnt the way to go either....women typically dont know much about cars, so that isnt too fair esp in a brand new relationship. get to know HER too before testing her on everything YOU already know...you guys dont know much about some things(feelings/emotions we go through thanks to nature) but we dont hold it against you. having a hobby is good, and most of you here seem to understand the difference btw family and cars(woohoo ) i have always tried to be interested in my past husbands intrests..asking questions etc...and it is the same for me now. BUT you have to give as well. us women have things that are important to us as well, and you should be "trying" to be interested in them too.
[ QUOTE ] Don't change your hobby for a woman dude that's all I can say.. did that once in my life.. ONCE!!! Sold the car,****** left, car was gone too.. shoulda kept the car... I kept the naked pics of her though. [/ QUOTE ] And you posted the pictures of the car?!?!?!
Nads is a man of great wisdom. I think when I go to vote tomorrow I will see if I can do a write-in vote, would make a good president. Life has been much simpler for me since I discovered 2 things: 1. Females of all species are all smarter than males. I discovered this when I owned horses. 2. I am always wrong. Period. I gave up arguing. Works better that way. Just apologize and move on. Took me a couple of marriages for my dumb**** to discover this. I think this really works. She bought me a 27 T coupe, remains of a T touring with an extra cowl and a 32 heavy axle, all in a package deal, for my birthday this year. And she doesn't****** about the 17 non-running cars sitting around our place. Remember, Nads for president!!
[ QUOTE ] Things automotive don't cause your relationship to deteriorate, but they may facilitate that loss. It is you that allows your relationship to pass, by either neglect or being an****hole or anywhere in between. The lack of communication is where it all dies. You can have your cake and eat it too if you can communicate with your woman. Go on the internet and look for Dr. Chapman's book "The Five Love Languages". I highly recommned it, helped save my marriage, I was on the way to divorce and turned things around with it's help. [/ QUOTE ] Well I've been reading this thread for a couple of days now. I found El Caballo's thoughts on the subject worth repeating. Know matter how much you have in common, or don't have in common, communication and compromise are the keys.
whatever!! hehe..you guys couldnt live w/o us ...you "need" us too much!! a car cant give you ummm...."special" treats. you complain now, but i'm sure when you're at home you wish to have someone to share things with. you like us more than you want to admit! even if we do get goofy ...to be polite. i'm glad to see so many of the married ones here who get it though! it's a give and take lifestyle. if you cant give then you shouldnt complain about your girl and what she doesnt do. relationships are hard no matter if there are hobbies/work/kids/etc... everyone has to do their part, or it wont work. i always tell my guy, that i never promised to be a rose all the time! hehehehehe.... good luck guys with your women and your cars!
O.K. I edited the hell outta this post. What I wrote was probably a little outta line. I'll play it safe and change it. .....I'll just leave one word from the original post: tuna.
you just gotta lay out the cards in the beginning..i told liz 14 years ago when we met.(dont ever come between me and my cars coz ill miss you) its worked out great and the fact that i have an awesome 4 yr old (EMILY) to go cruzzin with evey sunday is the proverbial frosting on the cake
[ QUOTE ] whatever!! hehe..you guys couldnt live w/o us ...you "need" us too much!! a car cant give you ummm...."special" treats. you complain now, but i'm sure when you're at home you wish to have someone to share things with. [/ QUOTE ] You were onto something there; but you lost me when I hit the part about wishing to have someone to share things with. If sharing was some type of****ual innuendo, remember we are males; We don't get that. Sharing is a bad word around us. Maybe you mean sharing the housework? I dunno. Maybe I Should stick with the "don't understand" - "don't want to" philosophy. I love your attitude and smiley faces... Can I get your number?
...."special treats" was my ****ual innuendo..hehe .. the other was that you guys prob wish you had someone to share things with like; how your day was/having us there to go to the movies with you/ driving around with you in your cars...things like that. cause sometimes it's not fun doing those things by yourself. but hey! sharing the housework isnt so bad either hehehehe.....! "love your attitude and smiley faces"...thanks!
Wow I'm sorry for most of you!! I found the most fantastic girl. Not only is she my best friend, but she's a great person too!! She love cars, music and the entire 50's lifestyle..... and she's a great body worker too. We build the car together. Well atleast everything since she walked into my life.... or maybe I walked into hers I don't know. To all you girls out there who's sitting at home alone when the guys are in the garage, get out there with him and get your hands dirty, you'll get a bond you wouldn't believe!! Klaus
On good days my wife leaves the stainless spatulas in the drawer and uses wooden spoons to teach me a lesson. Those are the days that I feel most blessed by the Lord.
[ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] I spend hours on HAMB everyday [/ QUOTE ] Maybe this is the problem? Not saying that you should get off the site but maybe an hour less on the hamb would smooth things out a little. Neal [/ QUOTE ] I agree, ever since i found the Hamb and lurking all the time, i do get a little flack from the girlie friend at times to spend more quality time with her, so i just go online when she's at work most of the time now and that makes things run a little smoother on the relationship side. I too, have a 7 year old daughter who loves hotrods and riding in my coupe as for her mom's concerned...I'm glad i found this Hotrod hobby after we divorced because it would have been just another thing to grip/ Nag about At one point in our marriage i had to choose between dirtbikes, being in a band and less Job related traveling... I guess you know what i chose since i have an awesome girlfriend now, who's one of the nicest and most supportive person i've ever known... very happy now and super fortunate to have her in my life now Oh... also forgot to mention that she let me take her to Billetproof this year on "her" birthday, not because she wanted to go, but because she knows how excited i was to attend that event that day in which fell on her birthday. I definatly made it up to her "the day before" and the following day! I just felt like she really wanted to make me happy even on her own B-day, now that's a thing i call love and dedication CAB
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