A "friend" spent my deposit

Friend, family, wife and loaned money should never go in the same sentence unless it includes "didnt" loan money.

I loaned my sister 12,000 for a truck, she finally got approved for a loan for 10,000 and paid that to me but I have still yet to see the other 2,000. But shes been on many of vacations, and bought many of beers for friends, etc etc etc in the mean time. My loan limit for anyone anymore is $100, I can afford to loose $100 and not ruin a friendship.

 

10-4 0n that, it cost me 25K to find that out.

 

With friends like that....you got enemies.

 

This.

Here and on many other boards.

 

Like the old saying goes. Fuck your friends cause your enemies won't let you

 

Hmmmm, I need some money to finish my car...

There is a really great (fill in the brand and year of car your interested in) for sale locally. If you want to send me $1000, I will put down a deposit for you, because I want to be your friend too.

I don't understand why I'm having trouble making friends?

Anybody?

Guess I'll go back out in the garage and work. Gene

 

See Dick loan money.
See Dick get ripped off.
Don't be a Dick!

 

Its sad but for the most part in today's world....
PEOPLE = SHIT

 

Hold you hand up in front of your face. See those 5 fingers? That is how many "TRUE FRIENDS" you will have in a life time. A "TRUE FRIEND" of mine told me that years ago and i'll be damnn if he isn't right... Your guy isn't one....

 

Thanks for the support and well I guess the jeers. To the guy that wrote "what kind of dumbass sends money for a car unseen"..well, this guy is a well known builder in Florida and a regular poster on here. He's sold over 600 cars he claims in his lifetime. He buys and sells cars all the time. Heck there is even a thread on here featuring one of his builds over the last year.

So, ya, I trusted him based on a previous purchase that went off ok.

It's not like I sent some toothless meth head a thousand bucks for a pimped out pinto.

 

Don't worry about the "Arm Chair Generals" and their second guessing you actions. I would not be surprised if at least half these tough talkin', "nobody puts one over on ME" types have been down a similar road.....though they don't want to admit it.

You did what you thought was right and felt you had good reason to trust the guy.

One thing that that should really obvious, but often escapes peoples norice...the ONLY people who can get to us are those we trust. But that is a risk we sometimes have to take if we want to participate fully in life. Sort of a corollary to the old saying, "the only people who haven't made any mistakes are those who haven't done anything"

Regards,
Ray

 

Dang,well known builder,sold over 600 cars and has to use your money to fix his truck. Might be a good thing you arn't friends anymore.

 

It is theft and he is a no good bum!

 

The more I read threads like this, the more I wonder about 'common sense' and those who sell it as a remedy for the problems of others. I have been beaten and cheated by my friends, and for the most part I still try to keep my perspective on this thing called humanity. We all make mistakes, and learn from them. Those who are wise learn from the mistakes of others. And, then there are those who want to put their spin on it. I know I'm no exception. Don't let one sour lemon spoil your taste for life. A friend who cons you and loses you as his friend is the real loser.

 

Well hell, for $100.00 I'll be your friend.

 

I'll loan a person money as long as they give me something that I get to keep or sell if they don't pay back.

nothing for collateral = no loan.

 

^ Very wise.

I heard an old saying a long time ago

"Lending money to friends looses both money AND friends"

I still believe very much in that. If its a dear friend that I've known my whole life and he's very trustworthy (and going through a financial hell) then that can be different, but in a case like this I think you got played pretty badly.

He knew you were a sucker for it, and to him it was just easy cash. I'd be very surprised if there ever was a truck in question.

 

Heck, I'll pay $1000 for a pimped out Pinto!!!!!!!! Where do I send the cash?
We've all been burned, $1,,,,,,,$1000 even more. Its the nature of the beast.
I bought a radiator for a truck one time. $100. Heavy as all get out.
WHY?? FULLA DIRT!!!
Ended with a smaller one but it worked. $50 to a friend so he could get medicine for his girlfriend with MS. Never saw him again, good investment. I lioked her though.
I gave a friend in the Navy $1500 to get me something overseas.
Never saw him again. Thats a different story though.

 

You did what you thought was right, and in good faith. He violated that trust, when a simple phone call or email asking for some help might have made it ok. He is the one at fault here, and I am so glad he broke off the friendship. I would hate to see you endure being his friend any longer. It is a shame that he is also a Hamb'r because it goes against part of the perceived moral code here. Especially when he could have asked for help here on the board, and probably gotten his truck fixed and not lost a friend in the process. I am glad you saw the return of all your money, and hopefully this "friend" reads this post and takes it to heart.

 

Don't let up, keep bugging him. A word of advice, always have in writing. Give someone a inch and they take a mile.

 

I learned the hard way early in life even family(cousin) will rip you off. I live buy the rule never loan out more than you can afford to lose. For me that is a dollar.

 

A "friend" came to me last year beggibg me to help him out with a $1000 and whatever I do, to not tell his wife. I agareed to help with the promise we would be paid back withing 90 days.

At the time we were doing renovations and he was our flooring salesman. He claimed he dropped the price by not taking a commission (because we're friends) and he showed up to help tear up the existing floor and again to help screw down a new sub floor. Both times the effort took less than a couple of hours and there were 1 or 2 other friends helping. Both times I thanked everyone for helping with a few beer and burgers.

6 months later I asked him when he plans to pay back the "loan". He got indignant and told me he had more than paid me back. I got a bit heated and told him if I had known his "help" was going to be so expensive I wouldn't have asked him to come (since my other friends were "free") and that he had no right to help himself to the "thanks for helping" beer and burgers. He got very angry when I told him I didn't believe his commission and 4 hours of help was worth the $1000

Haven't heard from him since.
Did find out he was fired from the flooring company... I can only speculate why

Thinking very strongly of going directly to his wife. That would get some action.

 

I would.

 

When it comes to friends or family I dont have a thousand dollars.You might be lucky and get it back though.I have one good friend that would lend me that kind of money and I would pay it back.....

 

I have found the friends you wouldnt mind lending money, are the ones that probably would never ask.

 

Its "showbiz" and not "showfriends" lol

 

Want to borrow money go to a bank that's what I say. I worked too hard for mine. However I did pizz alot away on women,cars & whiskey.
Pops told me son never lend your money, wife or bike(He had just rode my Harley home that I had bought 48 panhead). I can still see him waving his hands in the air as if he was trying to fly. This was in 1952.

 

I hate people like this, I gave a friend of a friend $500 to buy materials for the seats to be recovered. Played cat and mouse for a year. The kid was a junky, I lost the money and learned a hard lesson. I never pay up front now, NEVER. Karma will find all the rats in the world.

 

Damn that sucks, you'll probably never see that $500 again. I'd take it out of his ass!





















j/k, I read it all. Glad you got your money back and rid of a douche bag so-called friend.

 

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