Many of you know that I have been going through a protracted custody/visitation dispute with my ex-wife. On 14 September, the court ruled, in her absence, that she not be allowed access to my son, Rusty, until today, when the allegations against her might be heard. As it happened, she arrived Pro Se (ie: with a dummy for a lawyer, and an idiot for a client), and announced she would be representing herself. Long story short, the case was continued until 19 October, where she will have answered the pe***ion that I brought against her on 14 September, and where she will have filed an appearance, (or found a lawyer willing to work for free.) The best part: until this time (19 October) she is NOT allowed access to Rusty. I feel that this will be resolved in my favour, that she will be allowed only supervised visitation, and that this will allow Rusty to grow without her poisonous influence. Please recall that I have always retained custody of my son. Thank you for all your thoughts, Cosmo, aka Jeff Fennema
So glad to hear that things this situation is working oiut in your favor. you a still in my thought fro continued good luck jerry
Good luck, it's very difficult for a Dad to get custody in Illinois, at least it was when I went through that **** in the early 80's. Don't give anyone ammunition against you, even insignificant things can come back and bite you. Again, good luck
Good luck, I'll be praying for you... a stable home life is the most important thing in a child's upbringing, but you know that..or you wouldn't be fighting this. It seems like so often (around here, anyway) judges just usually give custody to the mother, no matter what kind of person they may be... but I'll quit preaching now. Brian
Thats rough for you and your son, but don't give up, it will be worth it. Like what was already said, don't do anything that could be used agaist you later.
Cosmo I'm in the middle of that **** too. Just waiting on a court date to get that egg donor and her loser jack*** put in their place. She's built a wonderfull case against herself and I can't wait to throw it in her face. She's earned it. Mess with *my* kids head...they ain't gonna know what hit 'em. Best of luck with yours...I'm right behind ya. Olson
cosmo, best of luck to you. i worked with a guy from illinois who didn't like the enviroment his ex and her new boyfriend were providing for his 3 kids. he filed for custody, won and the judge ordered her to pay child support. i know the only thing you want in the world is custody of your son, but go after her for payments. it can be done in illinois. the case i mentioned was in the early 90's.
Thanks guys. It would be VERY tough to do anything that would be worse than what she has done already , and I'm not about to, either . The idea of child support is OK, the reality, somewhat different. After being committed FOUR times, I'd much rather she be restrained than anything else. Also, since she has already broken into my house and threatened numerous people around me (just threats so far), the farther away and the less contact, the better. I've no doubt this will turn out well, but it has been an uphill battle, every step. As my lawyer said, if I were a woman, we wouldn't be here. Cosmo
Good luck. It's good to see a father get a fair deal. Usually the dad get s screwed. If you need some advice, let me know. My sister-in-law used to be a custody lawer for the state of north dakota.
Keep up the good fight man. I went through the same thing 17 years ago. After 6 affairs in 10 years( her affairs)I had enough. I got custody of my then eight year old daughter. We lived in a 23 foot travel trailer behind my sister's house while I went to college. My daughter still lives with me, and she just finished college/respiratory therapy school. She is a beautiful, responsible member of society and my best friend. Dad's can be awesome single parents. Doc
Just found this thread. I'm a custodial father with a worthless ex-wife. She took me to court when we left Houston for Austin. The judge said I had to bring my son back and forth for HER visitations! This is regardless of the fact that she hadn't paid child support in a year (might have something to do with not having a job for 7 years, which might have to do with her being a convicted felon). She paid for about 4 months (payment plan)-$140 a month. Funny, every MAN I know has to pay like $500 a month! She is now several thousand dollars behind, even though she's had a couple of apartments and cars since then. Utter bs.... I'm tired of her undermining any limits we set for my kid (his diet for instance; every summer he goes to her place at his ideal weight and comes back 30 pounds overweight:O). I'm looking into getting the case moved to Austin from Houston-any ideas? Good luck on this; nice to know there's other guys out there towing the line.
Congrats so far and it IS nice to see a fair outcome for once. Here in Ontario, Canada, the Mother is ALWAYS right and the Father always loses! I have 2 sons I haven't seen in 7 years because my ex-wife had a tempor tantrum and said "You will never see or talk to them again" basically because I had gone on with my life. Ironically the court system said that I have to inform them within 10 days of a change of address yet I don't even know WHERE they are as they moved a few years ago without telling me. Anyways, glad to see you're winning. I'm doing OK now as I've remarried and have 3 wonderful little daughters. And to the rest of you, my best wishes and support as a Dad.
I'm glad to hear some ex-wifes don't get their way. I have an evil ex wife. 8 years of fighting to see my daughter every other weekend. I finally gave in. I have no idea what I was thinking......
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