So sorry for your loss. Our prayers will be with you, the family and friends he left behind, but mostly for his son.
I met Rick back in the spring, nice guy, awesome car!! I'm sorry to hear how this has came about. It seems to be happening more and more. I'll have to admit I've had some bad thoughts myself, but then I look into the eyes of my 4 year old daughter and 6 yr old son, and my beautiful wife.....who has stuck by me through 8 years of crap, and I can only smile.....They complete me.... Rick, wherever you are man, wish you were here...... Mott
I lost a dear friend 7 years ago the same way. The morning it happen I was so sad. That changed to anger. It took along to to get over. Now I think of all the good times that Mark did not get to have, sad and sorry about it all. Try to include his son in a car activity you would have shared together. I am so sorry for your loss.
Very sorry for the loss of your friend. Men typically do not share their feelings. It is our duty as a friend to look out for our buds in these type of situations. I recently had a friend that I couldn`t reach. I tried his cell phone for several days. He eventually called to tell me he was in a mental institution after attemping suicide by overdosing on pain meds. He reached out for ME and I was kinda overwhelmed by the sudden feeling that I needed to do whatever is needed to get him back on the right track. His long-time girlfriend had moved out and he just freaked. I saw him today. I think he is doing OK. Just remember - you never know who is in trouble. Be a friend and give support.
I lost my cousin this same way, My wife and I had been married about a year, and my dad told me, we were the same age, I always thought she was one of the coolest people i had ever known, we just lost touch. It still hits me really bad, and this was over eight years ago. It never gets eaisier. things are horribly bad on me right now too, but I have my friends and family around and even when those kinds of thought hit me, I know it's just the enemy, and I know God is always here for me.
Just be around is all you have to do, I think him knowing that you are there is an unspoken thing and it probably means the world to know he has a friend.
I've lost a couple of friends that way. one just two months ago.... I just don't get it.. Condolences to the ones he left behind...
This one by Jackson Browne has always helped me deal with my cousin taking her own life, great song, I hope it helps in some way, Keep a fire burning in your eye Pay attention to the open sky You never know what will be coming down I dont remember losing track of you You were always dancing in and out of view I mustve always thought youd be around Always keeping things real by playing the clown Now youre nowhere to be found I dont know what happens when people die Cant seem to grasp it as hard as I try Its like a song playing right in my ear That I cant sing I cant help listening I cant help feeling stupid standing round Crying as they ease you down Cause I know that youd rather we were dancing Dancing our sorrow away (Right on dancing) No matter what fate chooses to play (Theres nothing you can do about it anyway) Just do the steps that youve been shown By everyone youve ever known Until the dance becomes your very own No matter how close to yours anothers steps have grown In the end there is one dance youll do alone Keep a fire for the human race And let your prayers go drifting into space You never know will be coming down Perhaps a better world is drawing near And just as easily, it could all disappear Along with whatever meaning you might have found Dont let the uncertainty turn you around (The world keeps turning around and around) Go on and make a joyful sound Into a dancer you have grown From a seed somebody else has thrown Go on ahead and throw some seeds of your own And somewhere between the time you arrive and the time you go May lie a reason you were alive but youll never know here's the song http://popup.lala.com/popup/360569483834215256
So sorry you lost your friend that way. Don't blame yourself for not seeing that it was going to happen.There's no way you could. I'm praying for you, his family, and other friends left behind.
Very sorry to hear about your friend. As someone else suggested earlier, when the time is right and his son is ready, take him to a car event. I think that keeping him involved in something that meant so much to his father would help him feel a continued connection with his dad. My condolences.
also, as others have mentioned-don't spend to much time dwelling on your potential roll in preventing something like this from happening. you really can't ever truly know for sure. you can look back and it's easy to see "warning signs" but at the time, you had no idea how bad it really was, etc. just know it's not in any way your fault.
That's the hardest thing to convince yourself, ever since my cousin took her life that many years ago, i still think if i has kept in better touch, if i had done something..... but inside you know you couldn't have done anything. I'll remember to pray for you on the loss of your friend.
Condolences with regard to the loss of your friend. I'm sure this is always a great shock. About a week ago we had this thing down under where it was promoted that we call a friend just to see that they were feeling O.K. At the time I thought 'that's a big ask'. But I also heard that aussie males over 45 yo are the most susceptible in thier society and that more young folk die of suicide than car crash down here. Our societies are similar. I'm now thinking the call- a- friend thing is a good idea. Especially if friends may be doing it tough. p.s. A similar thing happened in our little town one Saturday night and we didn't see it coming.
So sorry for your loss. Try not to blame yourself, becuase some hide it very, I lost a dear friend like this years ago and it still hurts til this day. God Bless his family and friends and may he RIP.
My condolences to you and the fellow HAMBers family. I hope I never have to deal with this, I am young and try to keep in touch with as many friends and acquiantances as possible. I always let my friends know I am here for them as I hope they are for me if I ever have any problems. As has been said don't blame yourself onlychevrolets.-Weeks
If there were words to type that would makeit feel any better we all would be lighting up our keyboards for you and his family. May God bless and keep you.
God bless you all. You and your friends and his family may benefit by seeking a group called SOS, Survivors of Suicide. It sure helped us when my wife's brother killed himself some 23 years ago.
I lost my cousin the same way, we grew up together I thought of him more as a brother, I know how you feel, it sucks bad, sorry for you loss.
Sorry to hear this, I have had a few mates go that way. PTSD, guys keep your eyes open for the signs. Keep strong for your mates family, divorced or not it will affect them too. Doc.
Hey man here's a song that makes me feel better when I'm down like that: Savatage( the trans siberian orchestra mates) Alone you Breathe (Criss's song): You were never one for waiting Still I always thought you'd wait for me Have you from your dreams awakened And from where you are what do you see Which of us is now in exile Which in need of amnesty Are you now but an illusion In my mind alone you breathe You believed in things that I will never know You were out there drowning but it never showed Till inside a rain swept night you just let go You've thrown it all away And now we'll never see The ending of the play The grand design The final line And what was meant to be
when I posted this earlier, I hadn't realized how powerful the artwork on the album cover was in this situation, it just hit me and WOW! the album is from jackson Browne and the album name is Late for the Sky, the song i'm sure inspired the cover was the Road and the Sky from the album. isn't it strange how this things come up in a bad situation like this? here's the album cover:
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