Be thankful for your dads

I lost my Mom and Dad both to the big C. My Dad wasn't keen on me being a mechanic as he saw it as a hard way to have made a livin but when I told him I had become a A&P mechanic he was still very proud that I did what made me happy. I remember just about anytime I would ask him about a problem I was having with a car he'd grill me and make me ****yze the problem rathjer than just jump in and do it for me. And coolest of all, he thought everything after the flathead was a waste of engennering! I still have his old hand made tool chest.painted red like snap-on, complete with the tools that feed me and the rest of the family. Gives me a warm feelin every time I walk past it!

 

I am truly sorry for your loss.

19 years ago my father had colon cancer. At the time he asked the Lord for ten more years. Today he is still with us and I am so greatfull for that.

About three weeks ago both my Mother and Father were diagnosed with cancer. My mothers is in her right kidney. Surgery is planned for June 13 and she should make a full recovery. My father has four tumors, two in his spine, one in his liver, and the fourth in his lung. He fighting one of the spine tumors with Radiation. We are praying that Chemo will be an option for the other three. We should know next week. He is in a lot of pain and certainly not himself.

He and I both have alot in common I guess that comes from the last 19 years we were given. He has a 37 Ford Sedan and I have my 27 track roadster. He has not even felt good enough to get his car out yet this year. His favorite little local show is this weekend I plan to get him out to the show in his car. When we first found out his cancer was back he told me to hurry up and get my roadster on the road so he can go bang gears in it with me.

I am sorry I did not intend to highjack your post. I guess some times you need to talk things out.

I will show this to my dad and we will both be praying for you and your family.

 

my dad choose to not be apart of mine or my brothers life.im sorry to hear about your father but you must be thankful for all the days you could just hang out or just ask questions to.you have to think of all the good times and even the bad ones because no matter what he was there.ive lost people close to me and what gets me by is all the memories and the comfort that they new that i loved them before the time came.anyone who has a dad that they can talk to today should call and put aside any differences and just say hi!!!you never know when you wont have the chance to do it again,,,i wish i could call my dad.hope this helps any..my prayers are with you...thanks...cmc

 

I lost my dad 5 years ago to cancer. He was the patriarch of the family. About a year before he died my mother started with alzhiemers. She is laying in the nursing home now bed ridden and in a comatose state. Anyway, when dad died the family fell apart. My brother started stealing from my mother, she didn't even know it. Somehow, he convinced her to sign a power of attorney which gave him the legal authority to take all her cash, sell her properties, sell all her investments and keep the money for himself. She was fairly well off but, will die with nothing and will probably leave huge medical bills that only I am capable of paying.

Moral of the story, please make sure that the wills and other paperwork is completed now. Learn the difference in Medical P of A, and Durable P or A. Don't wait til he is on his deathbed to try and do this. The longer you wait, the harder it is to get anything done through the legal system. DO NOT, AND I REPEAT, DO NOT rely on the legal sytems, judges, attorneys, etc. to help you out. They won't do ****. Sorry to hear this about your dad it's the hardest thing you'll ever do. Good luck and God bless.

 

Man, what can I say? I am sorry.
Just try and focus on the good times......never dwell iin the depressing times. Trust me, it will eat you alive from the inside out.

 

Bless you and bless your dad. I learned about cars from my dad - he wasn't a car nut - he was "frugal" - why pay a garage to do something you can figure out with a good manual and some basic tools...he taught me to reline riveted brakes....basic points/cond/plugs/timing/carb adj tuneup...change oil and filter. His love for dingbusted Nashes is what got me into cars so early - who wants to inherit a '55 Amb***ador? Not me...gimme a flathead merc coupe with flexpipe duals...and plenty of primer spots.

I loved my dad - but probably didn't tell him that enough...we got along on a practical business level - he was a banker his whole life, and I was a bank VP for the last 25 yrs of my professional career...so at least we had something to talk about besides my chances of winding up in reform school (popular topic at the adolescent-years dinner table).

Love your Dad, Hug your Dad, Thank your Dad - and to those of you raised by your Mom...same thing...if you're cool enough to be a HAMBer...she did a good job.

.."he'd grown up just like me...my boy was just like me..."

dj

 

mike and the mechanics, living years song, makes me think about my dad, he p***ed when i was 19 of lou gerigs disease,i feel your pain, be sure to let the hamb know if there's anything we can do

 

Mike and the Mechanics choke me up every time I hear that song. I'm sorry for your lose, I lost my Dad in '77.

 

I'm sorry to hear of your father's condition...my father has fought prostate cancer, a major heart attack, and now has been diagnosed w/ congestive heart failure. I love my father dearly, and he's taught me everything I know about hot rodding and the p***ion of it. He can't turn a wrench anymore because of arthritis, but he can diagnose a carburator or a timing problem over the phone. He's my inspiration, and I'll never know half of what he's forgotten about mechanics.

 

Sorry to hear about your dad.My dad does not share the same interests as me but he does respect them.He is up there in age and I do value the time that I have with him.I tried to convince him to go with me on the Vintage air tour to California on fathers day week but he said no he can not handle 8-10 hours in the car especially a hot rod as he gets tired.I do know that I am what I am today because of him.

 

I am very sorry to hear of your Dad's illness. Your post has brought out some feelings you don't often get on the HAMB. Most of us are rodders because of our Dads. I'll pray for your father and I think I'll try to spend a little more time with mine. God bless.

 

Sorry to hear about the bad news. These post made me step back and think. Hang in there man. Will be thinking about ya.