Folks Of Interest Ever had a throw down with your best friend

My friends run the gamut from hoarders to dreamers If we were all the same I'm sure one of us would have killed the other. Also gun nuts.

 

Spend more time with friends that actually fit you better. If you're a go-getter spend time with friends that are also go-getters...this dreamer will drag you down.

 

we all have friends like that, one of my friends is a big time family guy, works 6 days a week and trys to never miss anything his kids do so that leaves no time for his project.. it gets frustrating to me cause i know how bad he wants it going but just no time.

 

There ain't nothin like a good buddy who's also into old metal.

My neighbor two doors down loves the old stuff as much as I do and I can't even count the amount of hours we've spent wrenching on stuff together, but he's about to move overseas with his job.....it's breaking my heart.

As for giving people advice in a real time conversation....something I learned around age 35 or so....is that when it comes right down to it....not many people give a rats *** what my opinion was/is. So, I now live by that old saying, "Never Miss a Good Opportunity to Shut Up"

My grandmother, who partially raised me, also used to say something similar, "If Your Lips are Moving, You're Not Learning Anything"

These forums are unique and different in that they allow folks to express thoughts and opinions and allow the reader to sift through what they do and do not find worthy or interesting.

 

I have a friend that use to go to car shows with me. In fact, he went with me to pick up a project car which was across the state. One day, I went to his house and discovered a '63 Split Window Corvette hiding under a car cover in his garage. I asked him why he didn't drive his own car to shows. He said he likes riding with me. Since then, I never invite him to shows. I figure if he wants to go bad enough, he can drive his own car.

 

well said.
chris.

 

I agree with skyrodder

 

The only thing you can change is yourself and how you're dealing with the dissappointment. Just accept him as he is you don't have to like it but, accepting him as he is, is primary. Don't throw him under the bus.

Throw downs don't work very well for me because when I throw down it's like a Nuke, when it should have been like puppy.

 

You are a wise man Rock.

My inlaws are visiting and we had a big to-do at the house last night. Someone asked if I knew my neighbors and I said no. Not really, I do know them but I do not socialize with them. They are not into what I am and have no comprehension of what we love, even the "car guy" ones.

In our local area there are only a couple of hot rodders in my circle, the guys that get **** done and we feed off each other.

 

It's easy to tell other people how to build their projects and spend their money. Lord knows I do it all the time.

I'm kind of a big dreamer myself, and people are starting to realize that I'm full of ****.

 

It really bad when hes your best friend, neighbor, and brother!!...
59 chevy truck project going on 15 years...

 

I refer you to Dr Phil, Oprah Winfrey or Jerry Springer in that order

 

There was a small gang of us. We were all building drag cars of 1 type or another. I'm a helpful guy and was there to help all of em throw down on their racers. We all decided we'd be done by a certain time and have a run off and the fastest guy wins for $100 each in a hat. There were 5 of us. Not being secretive or shy we all knew what we were doing. I was eventually told to **** off because I wanted to make sure they all had a fair chance, as I was doing a bored 454 with a small shot of happy gas in a generic 72 Camaro. When questioned about fast I hoped to be "on motor" I said mid to high 11s. They were gonna be happy with 11.90s. It turned out that only 2 of us got our cars done and ran for a handshake. I ran 11.29 right off the trailer. As the days went by I dialed the car into the 10.80s. The other 3 quit talking to me altogether. Once I got my game on I was in the 10.30s on 10" slicks and no juice, and no friends. I guess those guys weren't friends after all.

I learned that once you achieve a certain standard, performance or looks, most of the friends you have that can't or won't compete or build to that quality standard, simply go away. I'm fine with that but it took a long time to come to grips with it. I still have a helping hand extended because that's just me. Not many accept it any longer. I'm fine with that too, but I can't change my ways. "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't teach em algebra" (unknown).

 

Consider yourself lucky to have a friend thats into the same hobby. None of my friends are into this stuff. They'd rather sit in front of a TV and watch baseball. Yuk. Luckily my younger brother is also into this hobby, and we're able to spend time together cuttin and weldin. And I'm sure that he'd like to wring my neck every now and then....! LOL.

 

The more I think about this thread the more I wonder if you're referring to me ;-)

In the years we've known each other you took your coupe from an OK body and the start of a frame to a award winning ride and all my projects didn't go anywhere. I started and abandoned some new ones for myself, completed several for customers and helped friends and my son complete theirs, working on one for ME now that I'm changing my approach on and expect to have driving sometime soon.

There is also a different approach to projects from different people, some enjoy the journey of the build while the final destination, getting the ride done is less important, for others it's all about the results. For me, it's all about the build, the result is of lesser importance.

While I'm pretty sure you're not talking about me, but one of your other hot-rod buddies the question does make me think.

 

Dont taze me bro!

 

I guess I don't get it. Is your buddy a pain in the *** over not being done...I mean does he ***** about it, or does it just bother you? I say unless he's either a) *****ing or )b whining, I wouldn't let his lack of progress bug ya. I have a brother in law who's starting to share my interest in rods. I'm psyched about it even though I know he's never gonna take on a build of his own. (let's just say he's not mechanically inclined.)

Just enjoy having another buddy who's into the same thing you are.

Cory

 

never mix friendship and money. you lose both.