I’m very sorry to hear about the passing of your wife. I lost my Mom 13 years ago and saw what my Dad went through after 45 years of marriage. It was painful for all of us, but I’m sure it was much more so for him. It’s normal to want solitude to process our grief, but as much as possible, try to spend time with friends and relatives and focus on good memories. Those friends and family who allow you to vent the vast ocean of emotions are the ones you want close. Peace be upon you.
Lemondana, I just read this post, and really understand what you're going through. I too have recently lost key loved ones. Be careful when dismissing the past, as it forms the building blocks for your future. Use the positive memories and lessons as you press forward, and you will soon feel the presence of your loved ones once more, as you use what you experienced together in the past to guide your way through what is still to come. In my case, for example, I inherited a car my dad bought almost fifty years ago for him and I to work on, but we never got to. In some ways, the LAST thing I want to do is spend hours on an unfinished "father and son" project now that father is gone. But then one day, I thought about the appeal of spending hours on something that ties directly to his memories, and will result in a physical reminder to many of the man we all knew and loved. It won't bring him back, but it will keep that connection strong. The man died, the love did not. Just my thoughts and feelings, hope they help. Ed
very sorry for your loss . losing your spouse is awful ! mine passed 9 years ago, some days it seems like yesterday and sometimes it seems like a lifetime ago . very important to allow yourself to grieve . as my older neighbor who lost his first wife in her 30's , told me after my wife died at 47," you never get over it but it does get easier with time " hang in there brother , dont be bashful to lean on friends and family for support and yes real men do cry!! hope you find peace and joy somewhere down the road.
Thank you all for the condolences and the words of wisdom. After this happened, I couldn't even bring myself to go out to the garage. It seemed like my car life was over, along with the life with my wife. Thank you all for any advice you've given me, and hopefully I can move on in the future. Again-Thanks to everyone who posted and I'll stick around.
I feel your pain my friend. I have been married to my best friend for 36 years. Take it one day at a time.
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