married guys vent thread...

I'm sorry... it's just a running joke around my work...

 

I had a girlfriend that always wanted to see me. I was either street racing or working overtime. When she complained, I told her to find someone else. She quit complaining after that.

Now that I'm married (not to the same girl), I always ask my wife if she wants to go on a car cruise (which she hates). She saids, "No, that's OK, you go and have fun". Guess I'm blessed........

 

"Dedicated hotrod time is for those lucky old retired bastards who's wives have no further use for anyways. Just ride it out and soon we'll be those lucky old f#cks."

Thanks for summing it up so concisely. The key is time. I've been married over 10 years and have an understanding and supportive wife but that doesn't mean I spend a lot of time in the garage either. I work 10 hour days, with a hour commute each way 5.5 days a week so when I finally get home and she's been with my son (he's 2) for the entire day, "hey babe, I'm going to head out to the garage or go meet my buddies for a coffee to discuss cars" doesn't go over well. We've had many a fight but I can't argue with logic, so family time wins out.

What works:

- involve the family if possible or at least ask - I take the family to local rod runs. Yes it's a hassle, no I can't drink with the guys afterwards, but at least I get to go. If she passes, at least I asked.

- plan time. If I tell her I want to spend a few hours on the weekend or a weekday night on the car ahead of time and focus the other time on the family it's OK. Spring it on her Saturday during breakfast she's pissed. Women plan ahead.

I've seen many marriages strained by our obsession. Just add up the time you spend on the HAMB, Ebay hunting/selling parts, reading wanted ads, car magazines, swap meets, rod runs PLUS the time working on the car or running car related errands. Now compare that to how much quality time you spend with your family/wife. Unless I'm a total nutcase, the numbers were staggering for me and I started to focus on my family more and put a project up for sale. Happy wife = happy family which means less stress when I get home and more sex

 

BINGO!

 

Like most here, I've had my share of goods and bads. My only vices are hot rods and beer, which occur together in the garage. When those combine into a problem, I back off, and then remind her of the many nasties so many of our friends have fallen to.

 

I've been married twice and I notice those here with most complaints are in marriages but ARE NOT COUPLES.
you can have one without the other but never works for very long.

 

Get some balls and tell her that one day out of the weekend is for you and the other is for both of you guys

 

Do what I did- Turn her on to scrapbooking...

 

The only problem I have with my wife is she gets on my ass when I AIN'T working on the car ! She is into cars as much as I am and it's her car WE are building. She gets just as grubby as I do and never hesitates about spending the bucks on it. She has turned a lot of bolts on that car, stripped off paint, sanded, primed and wants me to show her how to do things she don't know how to do yet. I can't bitch one bit. But then again.....she learned to drive in a 61 Vette that she helped her Dad restore.

NO.......she don't have a sister !!

 

42 years next Monday, Respect, pure and simple, both ways.

 

Compromise and communicate, should I repeat that ??
OK, I am almost retired, one kid from wife #3 is gone, current wife never had kids so we get lots of one on one time. The only car she cares about is the 2004 XJ8 in the garage. But she understand very well my need to do my thing and is very supportive of my shop space including the new 45 x 102 steel arch we have under construction. Notice I said WE, because marriage means that you are in it together. We both went through several marriages and now, being older, we have a life together that makes us both happy.
But the key is that you BOTH have to want it to work. If you're 'younger', have kids in the house, new cars in the driveway, or a big mortgage then you get more time to pay your dues. The pile of rust in the garage will still be there in 10 years...
BTW, we still have a 'date night' each week, no interruptions allowed.

 

Divorce !!!!

 

"Happiness is being single"

(Sorry I had to rub it in.)

 

Divorced and....... LOVING it. My girlfriend, knows NOTHING about cars, but she knows how much I enjoy them. Her work hours keep us seperated, except for Sundays. So, it took a LOT of whining and dining to "allow" me to go to the Houston HAMB monthly meet ups.

I have a feeling that once my car is done and she meets some of the guys, she'll want to come out with me for a while. We'll see once my car is done.

So, my advice would be to try and schedule in advance your car time and to just shake her up, schedule a "fake" car day and then cancel it. Tell her how instead of working on the car, you'd like to hang with her. Good luck!

 

No complaints from this gal... He builds them so I can drive them.

 

+1
all the vehicles i can afford to keep(10), and no nagging whatsoever.
the kids are with me and the only bills i pay are my own. life is great

 

Been married to the same little hotrod mamma for 31 years, no complaints, and like fine wine, it does get better with age.

 

way to go lady , my wife rolls the same way

 

Wives need hobbies too, mine is into dog training and computers, me, cars and model railroading. I go to dog shows with her and she goes to car shows with me and we spend time just being together. This one is the second wife and wouldn't trade her for anything, it will be 25 years in April. 25 yrs. with the first one was a bad was too long.

 

I've been married for 13 years to a wonderful woman who is not suppportive of my hobby as much as i would like. I strongly suspect, though, that a lot of it is theatrics, because she does take an interest in what I do, and gives me my garage/car show time without a great deal of fuss. I do agree that compromise and communication are the key. But....my disc brake kit for my hardtop looks suspiciously like oak cupboards

 

Lots of good advice here, some not so good.

I get this a tiny bit, but it's because I work at my real job quite a bit and we have 3 kids. I just try to make sure there is family time, and give her a heads up that I am planning to work on my junk the next day or whatever. It seems to work pretty well. I also try to keep the time in the garage to a reasonable amount, like 3 or 4 hours at a time, and not the whole freakin' day. It's worth it to me, as I like my wife and my family, but make sure you are on board before you take the plunge. Good luck.

 

my ex bitched when I worked in the garage late...this after spending all day with her at work,doing anything she wanted,lots of time with the kids activities,all the time.Maybe 3 or 4 times a YEAR would I spend all day Sunday in the garage,the rest of the time I only worked after everybody was asleep,her included..Lots of garage time starting at midnight,ending at 3AM,then back to work at 10AM..that was my compromise,and I thought it worked reasonably well..then she started whining about not having her OWN hobbies (whose fault was that?),and threatened to smash my cars with a sledgehammer...My calm,cool response about making sure she was done with this world before she did that must have worked...then I changed the locks on the garage..now I'm divorced,been dating a woman for about a year,and I'm watching very carefully how she reacts to my garage time..so far,some pouting,but not too bad...but we're not married,either..slowly ratcheting up the garage time,trying for 50-60 hours a month anyway..I was married for 25 years,and I hate to say it,but I'll go it alone before i'll change my ways now

 

.....+1

 

Ha ha ha! I don't mean to laugh.

I'm not married but I did move 2,500 miles for a woman. I also sold a lot of my "prized" toys to get out here. When we first started dating I told her the three things I require in my life... a dog, a garage, and a hotrod(s) and she said, "Wow you're simple!"

That's the way we started and I imagine, that's the way we'll continue. I provide for her and her family as much as humanly possible because it's important to me and the hotrod stuff isn't an issue.

 

The first thing that needs to be said...ALL Women are bi-polar, manic depressive..got that out of the way,moving on...I spend entirely too much of this short sweet Life sitting in my car in the driveway,parking lot,wherever, waiting for the Girl to get done with whatever it is she is doing..she will want to stop for water and a snack and I will watch five people get in and out with their beer before she comes out of the building..usually with some story about some interferance with a rude person,dropping something,wrong change,mumbling clerk, something...Jeeez..at least its fun watching her walk towards the building...

 

I've been married 21 years and my wife hates me!!!! She has a nice house and I have a nice shop!! She has a new car and I have my sixties muscle cars!!! DO YOU SEE WERE THIS IS GOING!!! PAY ATTENTION THERE WILL BE A QUIZ AFTER THE FILM!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I've got the opposite problem - I just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years because he wouldn't get IN the garage (well, not the only reason, but a big part of it)! I was always the one keeping up with swap meets and car shows, buying car parts and wanting to work on our cars, he just wanted to complain about his projects not being done yet...

Somehow I think my own cars will get done a lot faster now!

 

My wife said to me one day. " You spend too much time on this old heap. It's me or the cars."
Ya know, I miss her sometimes YEAH RIGHT HA HA HA !!!!!!!!!

 

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