married guys vent thread...

So true Denise. When Dana and I first met, she used to direct and choreograph theatrical shows and was into dance (no not THAT kind) . Now she is a die hard car chick.I think she realized that if she wanted to see me much , she could find parts of the hobby she liked and run with it.

Now when I go to a show with her- I never see her cuz she runs off with her other car buddies to do stuff- usually down the burnout pit or flamethrowing...LOL -while I sit back and relax by the car.....

 

im not even maried yet and already catch hell if i leave her alone for more than 5 minutes. When shes at work, i can do whatever i want, but the minute she gets off i get a call asking when ill be home from the shop. i spend time with her every night of the week, want one day....onefull day to work on my car and i catch hell because she cant figure out what to do for dinner by herself

am i screwed?

 

I've been with this one #3 for 19 yrs. in March, she puts up with my old cars & stuff. What found out is that if I get the honey-dos done I am out of the fire. Now that she is retirerd she does the bridge thing during the week, and I do the shop thing on the weekends . I can't complain, we both give to and for each other.

 

ha ha..... some of you guys wanna watch what the old girl does for a hobby,this is the age of the internet...how many of you have lost spouses to the chat room romance?

 

Hmmm... Let's see.... Venting.... AAAhhhhh!!!!!
I'm sorry guys, I can't complain too much, my wife is pretty cool. She has quirks, they all do. But We both work hard for our money and it takes both of us to succeed.

Hek, I even sold one of my toys a while back so I could buy hers for her. I haven't finished yet but she doesn't complain about it.

It's tuff on everyone we all have wants an needs often more wants than needs...

She new comming into this relationship I was car guy. She could always leave. Just remember though to you finding the right grille or even a small item like a shift knob is a big deal, maybe to her it's a pair of earings, or the right shampoo... Give and take boys, give an take...

Anyway, if she was to leave that would suck... Who would make me my drinks and do my laundry?

 

Hmmmm.Maybe I screwed up here,my dad hated hotrods,now the mrs. seems to be getting more wound up with the car stuff.Every time I buy something there.s like a Spanish Inquisition,and I have to match the cost with housey things!Anyone want to swap for a packet of hoola hoops and a pair of ear muffs.

 

Just a series of life styles over the decades.
Wrench for a few years.
Wench for a few years.
'Tis rare to do both at the same time.

 

yes you are

 

i sit in the house farting, cursing, and smoking cigars. she makes
me go out to the garage.

 

From a woman's standpoint, she is jealous of the car. I would be too.
You can make this work. You might try askingher to help, there is a lot she can learn from you about car maintenance and safety just by being there.

You could try to alternate weekends, one out with her, or maybe just a day of the weekend, then spend the rest on the car.
You might also ask her if she and a friend would like to go to a spa or an afternoon get away and you arrange everything and pay for it. That way, you are the kind and thoughtful one and oh how sweet, but you get your time to work on the car.

But most of all, be honest. Tell her how much you want to work on the car and tell her how important it is that she share that time with you.
It will all work out.
Whitney
daughter of a street rodder, learned everything I know from my dad!

 

I've been married 28 years and when I need to work on the car, I eat a big plate of cabbage. It takes about thirty minutes and she's tellin' me to GET OUT OF THE HOUSE! (works every time)

 

Are you kidding me ???
It is NOT going to get better ... only worse ...

For your sake and hers ... RUN ...

 

men marry women hoping they won't change.
Women marry men hoping they will...

 

I've been married 11 years. I had lots of fights and problems the first few years. Especially when the kids were younger. They are now 5 and 8. The last two years have been wonderful as far as car building goes. I booked a room two years ago at the four seasons the same time as the lonestar roundup. Yeah it ain't cheap! I actually got sick at the roundup and spent most of the time in the hotel bed wishing someone would shoot me and put me out of my misery. But... the effort trying to include and keep my wife comfortable made a big difference. When ever i'm doing timing now she helps me find TDC. She always liked going for a Sunday crusie. The roundup trip gave her some insight into car people and how nice they are and the car culture. Give it time..and try to put a spin on it that she can buy into.

 

well my wife married me for my car. i go into the garage at night and she watches tv, just tell her you will stay with her if you get the remote

 

How about if I arranged a weekend at a spa with her friend and me,and let her work on the hotrod,would that work?

 

The best thing I ever did was build my garage here at home. I always had my garage somewhere away from home so when I got done working, I could close up shop and get away from it. When I got married (almost 6 years ago) the shop away was a joke! Constant fights and arguments over the time spent there. So...built a new shop behind the house and everything is better. I'm not in the shop any less, but I'm at home. That seems like it solved the problem. She has her own hot rod now, and I even got her to work her ass off in the shop all day today. How 'bout that shit!

Kevin

 

-My problem is, that I totalled HER car out this last Fall...and promised to fix it. Now, everytime I try to work on one of my cars, I hear about her's not being on the road yet... But, I guess that's my own fault.

My ex-wife just flat-out did not want me messing with cars, and did everything in her power to make sure I didn't. My life was a living hell at times because of it... I compromised more than most...still didn't help. She's an ex, and the wife I have now does try to understand, and I try to balance my "addiction", with her interests...

 

what have I done? I see I am not the only one, um, venting...my wife is cool, she didn't say a peep this weekend, and I put about 14 hours into the floorpans of my O/T car (67 Mustang)...(sorry, HAD to put that in there....)

 

My wedding anniversary is today, 7 years.

It has been a year that she asked for a divorce, and we are still married.
The legal system is slow and damned expensive!!!

My money is going to the lawyer and my hot rods are not moving.
Maybe next year it will be final?

Life is much more simple and quiet at home and in the garage.
I am not in fear of getting yelled at for having a good time in the garage anymore. I read what I want, and watch speed channel.

Yes, I do love my cars and my garage time!

-life is simple

 

Hey, I did the quote thing, and it sort of worked. Kind of. Lazer 5000 is really growing up. Yay!

 

The day after my wife and I's first date, I showed up on my bike. I laid it out to her right there and asked if she had a problem with it, as I had women in my past who did. I puffed out my chest and with my best tough-guy accent, told her if she had a problem with it to speak up now because if given a choice, I would choose the bike over her. She laughed at me and asked when I was going to shut-up and take her for a ride. I soon found out that her family was into rodding, and her Dad had been into bikes. Here we are 14 years later and my bike has been gathering dust for the last two years (completely my fault) while I've been building our '31 A RPU. She loves cruzin' and going to shows, and I must say, cruzin' in an old drop top is the second best thing to ridin' a two wheeler. If you can't get your Gal interested in your buggy now, what's going to change when it's done and you want to go cruzin'? Luke

 

We have "no fault" divorce here. You separate,after 12 months either party can file the papers with the family court and it's done. The only complications occur when the either party has decided to fight over custody or possesions,then only lawyers win but 'pre-nup' agreements are common and binding.
And even guys who are just living with some chick have found these are neccesary .Something for those who are 'living in sin ' should think about.ha ha

 

0300 is a good time to work on cars . Very quiet , no one around

 

My wife told me I love my car more than her. I told that was stupid.........................

I LOVE YOU BOTH THE SAME.

 

Don't get involved with the wrong girl.... Find one that enjoys the hobby. My wife is cool with it, he doesn't bitch too much, last summer I scored a really nice desoto 4 door that she can add gas and drive. Now all of a sudden she is more into it. I do spend time with her and the kid. If your expecting to spend 20 hours a week in the shop and every weekend at a show or swap meet your gonna' find yourself alone. it is pick and choose for me. I sit some stuff out to keep the wife happy but I'm ok with that. 6 years of marriage and all is good!

 

I always think its funny how they want to "spend time together" however it is only if we are doing what they want to do.... I would call helping me fabricate or block sand spending time together! Hell its better and cheaper than going to the movies or out to dinner right? And my fiance is a car girl! Oh well, now I schedule time (Sundays) for our (her) time. Its the best thing I ever did! When she starts bitching I run in the kitchen grab the calender off the wall and run back to her with a puzzled look on my face.... And then I say... wait a sec? Its not sunday WTF are you complaining about? And by that point shes so angry she doesn't even want to spend the time with me! Works every time... I give the whole thing about another 2 months before I won't have this problem at all anymore!

 

never make a legal contract with a person who bleeds for 5 days in a row and does not die.

 

Diplomacy and balance come into play.
Compromise more than a little. I go to just about as many car show as I want and work on the car as needed but the domestic/marrige stuff has to be important too.
If you're a selfish so and so (or she is) it will never work.