O/T, do all kids go braindead at 14?

The problem is not that he is brain dead, but his brain has moved. I have helped my wife raise 4...

Their brain merely falls down into their ass between the age of 12 and 14 and does not move up again without parental assistance. In fact that's why its called ASSistance...

Kick them there at least once a week very hard to expedite the recuperative processes.

Best to you in your future...
VonDad

 

maybe he is smoking pot.. or maybe you should be smoking some as well....

 

high school girls have boobs, theres your answer.

 

Thanks guys. No new friends. My kid is kind of a loner. I think he has too much on his plate. He signed up for all Pre-AP courses and he is marching with the high school competition band. His plate runneth over......Dad may start cutting programs.

 

Nah, my oldest one has bouts with a disconnected brain at 10. Usually when a t.v. or computer is involved!

 

We had the same deal with our oldest son. My wife explained it this way.. 'By the time he's old enough to move out, he's pissed you off so bad that it doesn't rip your heart out as bad to see him move out.'

Son #2 is on the same course. I know somewhere in there is the same great kid, but geez..

FWIW, Son #1 is now 21 and is a Firefighter/EMT. Well respected at his work, and at my house. =)
Hope yours works out the same.

 

There's been 99% good advice, Root.

My take is you'll get back the agrevation you gave your dad. Karma. The acts won't be the same, necessarly, but the stomach acid inflicted on you will be like your pop felt, I think. I could be wrong about that, but believing it kept me from murdering my kids.

And, "High school girls have boobs" sure sums up the reason for the absentmindedness.

 

And for three generations I've watched, band geeks get a lot of pussy.

 

What he said. It's the "Voodoo Punani". He cares about nothing else.

My wife is due with my first son (first child) anytime and I'm already not looking forward to the teenage years. All I can offer is "good luck".

Mootz

 

Full plate. Kids these days have too many choices too many things to do, too much pressure to overachieve, be involved in too much. The only "F" I ever made was when I was 14, freshman in high school. Discovered girls, and seriously discovered hot rods and got a bad attitude, hated school.

My baby girl is 24 now, her older sister is 28, both teachers. Jason is 36. For some reason the older daughter feels compelled now to tell me things she did in high school that I would rather not know. Would have killed her had I known then. At about 21 years of age suddenly mom & dad aren't so dumb anymore.

You all will make it, as soon as he gets 16 put wheels under him, taking away the car, or the threat of, really gets their attention.

 

You nailed it when you said the word "time". It's one thing to buy them all the all the latest gizmo's and clothes and what not but belongings inevitibly don't make you happy. It's belonging. I've discovered that taking my grand kids out for the day or having them over to play at my house is the most gratifying things I have done an as often as you want to kill them on a road trip "are we there yet" They will remember the trips to here and there and what you did together and you'll get a pay off, it may take ten years but they'll say "remember when we did this, it was fun" Priceless

 

I have a theory on the reason for this:

I spent hours and hours trying to figure out how a kid who Never even made worse than an A, could possibly be making D's......The most dissapionting thing is he walks around with his head so far up his ---.

I blame it on the fact that ALIENS come suck all kids brains out at puberty.....12...13...14????

 

There's a reason I wear a crew cut now.....I used to have it half way to ass. My dad used to yard my worthless ass out of bed by my hair.
He's 71, a rodder, and my best friend.
Pat

 

It's not the kids. The parents lose their sense of humor at 39

Make sure he doesn't have some bully picking on him. Show him how to use a tire-iron.

 

You may think I'm an idiot, but I've seen it happen many, many, many times. Kids give in to peer pressure, it's a fact of life. Oh, and I'm not some kind of counselor, I'm a high school football coach.

 

No. We've already had that discussion, several times. I've told him college is a lot of work, and it's also a lot of fun...you get to take a lot of classes you actually like, get to make your own schedule, etc. etc. etc...and I've also made it abundantly clear that he will have a job and pay his own tuition. I'll pay books and housing. If he keeps a high-B average, Georgia has the Hope scholarship that pays for his tuition...and if he gets that, then he's still getting a job and HE'S paying for his own books! I worked my ass off to graduate with no student loans or debt, and got a degree and a job I like, and he's gonna do the same. At 12 years old, he's a hard worker; recycled alumunum and copper wire to pay for his own go-cart, then 4-wheeler, bought his own $175 ipod and pays for the music downloads, bought his own Airsoft guns...

I've also had the talk with him about all the stupid things kids are going to start doing in middle school--sex, drugs, drinking, smoking--and that when I was his age, I stopped hanging out with my best friend because he started smoking pot. I also told him that, as a teenager, I resented nothing more than my parents telling me "we know what it was like--we were your age too and went through all the same things." Hell, they couldn't even say the word "pregnant" when they were in highschool and they never even saw a joint until after I was born--how the hell could they have any clue what it was like being a kid in the '80s? Then I told Boy Wonder "Things changed a TON from when my parents were 12 and when I was 12...totally different world. Things haven't changed a BIT from when I was 12 to you today, so when I say "I know what it was like," listen to me, because I do know. And if you don't listen, you're grounded."

It's gonna be an interesting few years...

-Brad

 

welcome to parenthood man , as a father of 5 i can honestly tell you it will continue on for many many years to come , my oldest is 29 and the youngest 17 and theres not sign of this situation changing
me and the wife are hoping that at age 30 things will get better but im thinking about raising the age limit ...
good luck , hang in there ...one day you can move and not tell them where!

 

I have two daughters, they stopped listening when they hit 14. One never said anything, just quietly did her own thing. The other one, the youngest, went to the all black look, lipstick, shoes, fingernails, hair clothes, everything. The funny thing is they did listen.
I didn't realise it until they got out of high school and went to college. I overheard them telling their friends what they were doing wrong. Word for word it was what I had been telling them for years. Made my day.
Another funny thing is that they know everything, you don't, they do. Then they graduate and become 19.
Suddenly they realise they don't know anything. Then
they start talking to you, to find out what you been
telling them all along. Funny.

 

Get him neutered, that's the only way to straighten him out, it worked on my Great Danes. (or at least threaten him with it, that should help too.)

 

I can honestly see how the Marching Band, Pre-AP this and that would contribute to him failing.

I'm in school now, and possibly one of the best things that could've happened to me to pull me out of the "punk ass" routine as my dad calls it, was to actually start hanging around and doing things with my Dad and Grandpa. Picking up skills and learning how to actually be self-sufficient helped out alot.

And honestly, alot of kids are not interested in some of the useless "requireds" that the schools offer. Its hard to get motivated about algebra when all you actually want to do is weld for a living, and when you actually have a life outside of school and such.

 

If you can hang in there and not lose hope, and attempt to find something for him to work for, there will come a day like mine last Tuesday.
I was at the dentist having my teeth cleaned and the woman dental tech said to me that my ( 24 year old son ) was such a nice young man. She stated that my son told her and my friend the dentist that he had put me through hell for some years before he got the bigger picture. He is now in his last year of university. ( And yes, he did put me through hell )
Now my mission, is to live long enough to become a problem for my children.
Bob

 

My wife's 14 year old step brother asked me the other day when we were watching TV and they were showing the space shuttle hauled to the launch pad. "Have they ever launched another space shuttle since we went to the moon?"

I keep telling myself he was just screwing with me. I kept asking him different questions like about the Russian space station and he had never heard of it.
The sad part is....he is an A student! WTH are they teaching these kids????

 

heh...well they teach them to pass the tests that keep the school funded for the most part.

Now that my kid is 20 and out on his own working to get by I think he is finally starting to get it. Give him another year or two and I think he might actually be human again.

 

Mostly, a bunch of horseshit.

The rest is how to live on a slab of concrete, pay someone else to do everything, and waste plenty of money on things the goverment has invested in.

 

whoa....flashback..

 

I'm father to 5, the oldest 35, the baby's just turned 22. 4 girls 1 boy, and they're all great kids, I'm so proud of the way they've turned out, and yet they had troubles when they were young. My two big girls are from my first marriage, but Deb and I raised them from 17 to adulthood, so we're all 'family' to one another.

My son had the worst problems, bullied out of school at 15, refused to go back no matter what we did. He was tall and skinny, a gangly kid not into sport or anything, a real loner. We worried like Hell over him, but kept talking to him, sending him to evening college to get an education. He's recently hit 23, got engaged to a great girl, and has a job as a trainee bar manager in a nightclub in town.

Yeah, they all went brain dead at 14, but they all grew out of it!

Good luck, Glen.

 

Have 2 boys, well actually men now, the older wasn't too bad had his moments, the younger is the reason that I lost half my hair, no joke the most hardheaded person I ever encountered. Got into a lot of trouble, did some slam door time, now he's come around and listens. We can actually talk to him, he has settled down quite a bit. Each child is an individual and ya gotta love them no matter what...... The best part is now that he doesn't live at home, now he actually remembered to call his Mom on Mothers day believe me thats an accomplishment. Hang in ,they will pull through.......... Best of luck

 

10-4 on that. When my son was about 12 a friend took him by the arm. He told my son to look at me very carefully, that the old man's going to get REAL stupid. But he was to be patient and give me a few years that I would be OK. It took almost 15 years, but I recovered!

 

Just the person I want giving advise to my 13 year old!

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Talk to your kid and find out the problem, don't ask guys on a car forum, where most of them haven't been in school for close to a decade if no more.
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Then just move along sonny, if this is just a car forum to you.

 

My identical twin sons just graduated in May and are now freshmen at a local college. They seemed to take turns trying to get me tried for murder . One was in FBLA, a state officer, and did the Knowledge Bowl deal. I actually think the extra stuff made him a better student, because he had to interact with different groups, not hang out with his peeps and play Guitar Hero or whatever. He has the black hair, black clothes, etc., and a shitty attitude at times, but has never been in trouble or come home drunk or stoned. The other boy has been ready to quit school since he was 14, thought there was no reason to be there. His grades sucked, he didn't care, he lived for the weekend all throughout his h.s.years. (Sound Familiar,anyone? ) I had to jack him up exactly once for a disrespectful comment made to me (Way disrespectful). It never happened again. To shorten this up, they (we) all seem to go nuts around that time, trying to find their own place in their surroundings. I did. I was a real pain in the ass (some say I still am ) If it doesn't involve murder, rape, or the police, they should eventually "grow out of it". I even grew out of the drugs and alcohol, which I indulged in to excess a lot in my high school years. My sons are starting to show signs of their brains regenerating, and I'm confident that they'll be fairly stable by the time I die.