In 36 years on this planet, I'm still not sure that I've made a positive difference in anyone's life. The same will not be able to be said for Jake. Your first post elicited a long overdue and sincere prayer from me and this one will as well. I still recall the words from my mother's funeral..."don't cry for what is lost, but rejoice in what was had". I don't doubt that you will be reunited again and in the meantime, may Jake live on in your hearts in hopefully in the organs of others who may continue to positively change the world as he will. God bless you and your family.
23 years ago, my wife and I lost our two-month-old son, Graham, to SIDS. We, too, had a two-year-old (who couldn't comprehend why she couldn't go up to heaven to see her little brother). Like you, I found him in his crib, started CPR, they got him to the hospital, got his heart going, but there was no brain activity, and I can still to this day remember the feeling, after having Graham on life-support for 36 hours and making the decision to take him off, walking with my arm around my wife down the long corridor and leaving the hospital, praying that it was all a bad dream and that I would wake up and everything would be alright. Everyone expects to bury their parents. No one expects to bury a child. My heart goes out to your family, and I pray that the Lord surround you with people who will love you and support you, and just be there for you, even if they don't know what to say. I was at seminary when Graham died, and one of my professors said, "Babies in heaven; imagine what joy they'll bring." And when I think of that, I can hardly wait, to see Graham, Jake, and all the other little ones who were taken from this earth too soon...and I know they will bring joy to us. We just have to wait a little while to see it come to pass. I would encourage you (or maybe the hospital has already done this for you) to contact the SIDS Foundation. They sent a lady to our house, who had lost a son to SIDS, and what she said was very helpful, especially in dealing with well-meaning people who say, "You should have done this, or you shouldn't have done that." I'm going to keep you all in my prayers, because your life is not going to be the same. There's a place that only Jake can fill, and I hope you're always thankful for the time you had him. If you feel like talking to someone who has lost a child to SIDS, pm me, and give me your number, and I'll call you on my dime. I can talk as long as you like and as often as you need, and I mean that. My wife and I can both get on the phone and talk to the two of you.
May God have mercy on 'lil Jake and bless his parents with the strength and faith to hold up during this tough time. Our prayers are with you and your family. Good luck.
Prayers from me and my family strongly go out to yours. Jake will live forever in spirit and in people's hearts.. Take care and be strong for your family. -scott noteboom
I have at least 5 friends who are expecting right now so I hear alot about babies these days but I wasn't expecting to see this... Wow. How horrible for you and your family. Nothing I can say will mean anything to you... prayers be with you and Godspeed to your son.
It's so hard when we lose a young person, when they are babies? I just don't understand. I'm so sorry.
I live in the Buffalo area not too far from Rochester. Your family is in my prayers. Please let us know if there is anything else you need.
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