Hey as long as you had fun with your stuff while still above ground, to me is the more important thing. When I'm gone , I'm gone , auction my shit off and have a party. If family isn't into it, so be it.
You know what, I,m heading towards 60, have loads of stuff and i,m going to tell the missus that there has never been a thread on the HAMB about cleaning up all our junk after we die . Thats because we,re all 100% certain that it will get used some day soon. And my son in law can go to hell.
Coalition of wife, best friend (like a brother), a son. Best friend to help wife and son with decissions. NO auction here, if anything is sold it will go to Kansas City.
when i go i dont care if as my meat wagon is pulling out of my driveway if the crusher and the dumpsters are waiting to pull in i have no kids and no member of my family is younger then me nor would any of them want it need it or know what to do with it
My kid gets all the guns and car stuff. He loves anything with torque or recoil, so I know it will be cared for. I have thinned out some stuff over the last few years, so my wife doesn't have to worry about it. I have given models to a local kid who really enjoys them. Some things just don't mean as much as they used to. My dad lies in a precarious state in an ICU at the moment, so this has been on my mind a lot this week.
im going to heaven where i will greet god/alla/budda/whoever and im gunna demand my 40 virgins,my 40 differentr beers,my 40 hotrods and 40 different dragstrips if not ,im coming back...... In all seriousness though this is a subject that i spoke about yesterday,im building one of my cars at my elderly uncles house ,,he is 87 and a boilermaker by trade ,he loves working on the old ford with me and has taught me more about metal fabrication and life in general than anyone,,,his son is a waste of space drugo and he told me yesterday when he dies to come around and steal all of his tools,cause he knows ill use them as they were designed to be used ,,,he said "get here quick cause them c#%ts will be here real quick and waste my lifes work".... get a young guy interested in your old cars,,,,,ask him to help build your next project ,teach him the names of stuff and tell him to look it up on google,,,then leave the cool stuff to him,,,,,or atleast the weird stuff only he ll understand the value of...
After going through all of my mom's stuff to put her in a home, I looked around at the 7 cardboard boxes of "special" stuff that I kept, I realized all I really have is the memories of her. We filled a huge dumpster full of stuff,and gave 2 suv loads to friends.
I told my sons to go through all my cool shit,keep the tools you want (most of the tools they won't even know what they are for) advertise to the car guys and have a garage sale , dumpster what doesn't sell. I will be dead and won't need that stuff anymore.Most of it I only know what it is for anyway and is junk to most people.
My wife keeps asking me about this "What should I do with all of your stuff when you die?" I said that the grandkids get first choice. they are only 9 and 3, but love the old cars. If our 2 girls want some things, they can have them, then she should have an auction and that it should be like a big party where all my friends will show up and hopefully (ha ha) talk about what a great guy I was.
My hopes lie on my 9yr old daughter. She's daddy's girl ad loves what I love. The 12yr old boy could care less! Kinda frustrating! My wife has a 15yr old cousin that loves the stuff and I've been trying to take him under my wing. As long as I have the spiritual stuff taken care of, the rest will take care of itself!
If it happens sooner my kids split the money made from selling my vehicles and parts for college,life, etc. If it happens later over 60 years of age. Then they can use the money for my grandchildren.
My boys asked me what I was going to do with all my stuff, and I said I don't have to worry about. They both looked at me funny, and I said you two do. Seriously I keep telling them look at all this stuff ( read that as Crap ) that you are going to get it all. They are both gearheads anyway. Steve
Lots of great replies! Some are helpful, some do not apply to my situation...also, thanks for those private messages. My decision..... Don't die (Yet)! So for now, I'll continue spending numerous hours in my garage, attending Hot-Rod meets and riding the Harley. I'm also thinking of purchasing a 24 ft. trailer, so my wife can have my "Stuff" loaded up and brought back up North, so that my friends can pick through it. I guess my vehicles can be sold through advertisements (I've had great luck through the years buying and selling in "Round-up" magazine... located in Jane Lew WV.) OK... time to continue my search for 39' Ford Standard parts, thanks to a Gal that rear-ended me (@45mph) in March and told the cop, "SHE" was having a bad day!.... Thanks again!
I may be way off here, so cut me a bit of slack, but I'm reading two things here. One, am I reading it right that you are thinking of giving up all your stuff now? Because I know plenty of one legged motorcyclist, let alone car guys. Don't know your situation, age, will to keep doing the things you love, etc. But I have a few friends with prosthesis that race, ride, build, etc. Secondly, to a bigger question of, "what happens to my stuff when I'm like; really GONE"... That I can probably advise most of you guys about. It's called a "Revocable Living Trust", and if you are over 30 and don't have one, you are missing the boat. I'm not a lawyer, so I won't bore you with my explination of it other than to say, find a "trust" lawyer in the phone book, the first meeting should be free, and find out how much better you are protected, your money, posessions, etc, and how to avoid your family members from having to go to court over your stuff. Don't be so selfish as to not care what your family and friends have to go through when you're gone. Really, guys. You'll thank me for it.
I haven't a clue. The wife and I have always planned on checking out together. Read whatever you want into that. There is a will that states that whomever finds it gets everything. But there are some conditions, we have specific intructions as to what to do with our ashes. The creamation is arranged and paid for already. The bearer of the will needs to meet those conditions prior to taking possesion of our belongings. So if you hear that we have checked out and you think there is something that we have that you may like to have better beet feet to our place and start looking.
Im young, but I have been thinkin about it. I have had people I know go way early and my dad has come close a few times. In the last few weeks I myself had some bell’s palsy going on. Which is really nothing serious but it did make me think about this a bit more. I have insurance so my wife can take care of the house and bills but we have never discussed my “stuff”; not that I have a lot of it but I do have some. I plan on making a will and whatnot soon and then updating it as I go along. That way everything is covered
start selling it now or start giving it away. find younger hotrodders that can use the parts and either sell to them cheap or give some away.. it will make a big impression on the younger guys. Once you are in the dirt, it is just a bunch of junk to the wife.. no emotion ties like you have and generally just a stress issue for relatives to get ride of it. (they will take it to the dump.. which means it was a waste of your time to collect the stuff). if it goes to someone else then it lives on. An older friend who had collected a lot of parts, helped me out when I was first starting and I will alway remember his kindness. I consider him a great friend and appreciate what he did for me.
One friend of mine has given instructions that I and another friend are to help his wife sell off the stuff that isn't designated to go to one of the kids. He has pruned that batch down a lot in the past couple of years though. My kids will have to figure out what to do with my stuff but my daughter has already spoken for the 48 and my son gets pick of the tools.
The name for EBB's Speed Shop came from the three guys that dreamt it up in the middle 70's. Ed, Bob and Brian. If I (Bob) cack first, they'll help my wife and kids sort through and sell the stuff the family doesn't want. If I end up with some incurable thing that gives me a couple months to liquidate, I'll do what I can to make it happen before my expiration date.
What happens when it's over? Hopefully, you get to kiss the trophy girl, hit the pay window and head for a steak place with the crew! LOL Gary
Well,.... As I advance in years I have thought about this a lot. Some of the things I want to go to my sons I have already started to give them,... not all at once but slowly from time to time so they can understand the significance (or sentimental value) of them, And I can see them enjoy it (them)..... I have a couple cars picked out for them with a few extra parts. And some special items set aside with some good friends names on them. My one son will find out this week that he will will be getting my Great Grandfathers rocking chair as I deliver it to him. Is it hard to let go of ?,.... more than you know. But I want to see him enjoy it and value it as my grandfather, my father and I have over so many decades. And hopefully this can help to avoid any questions, hard feelings or fights about who gets and why... this way your wishes and reasons are well known,.. no question. Everything else will be auctioned off, And all proceeds going to my Wife.. This way people will pay what the traffic will bare, It can all be gone in one day, And hopefully this will circumvent anybody trying to take any advantage of the situation. My folks were brought up during the Depression, and even though Dad never did have very many material possessions, He believed in saving everything, "Cause you never know when you might need it",... Mom saved everything!. After Dad and then Mom passed, I was faced with what seemed an insurmountable task !,... My siblings didn't want much of the stuff,... But they didn't want me to dispose of it either. Eleven years after Mom passed away, I am still sorting out boxes of stuff. I just recently threw away my Grandmother & Grandfather's Dentures that was in a box of paperwork from there funerals. Grandma passed away in 62' Grandpa in 72'. Don't do this to your Wife and kids,... If you are getting older and feeling your mortality and have something that you plan on leaving them, If you can do without it,.... Give it to them with warm hands. They will remember that moment and treasure that time much more than going to remove it from your estate. The only things you can take from, and really leave in this world of any TRUE value. Are not the things you can touch with your hands,....It's the things that you can only touch with your heart.
It all goes to my Wife and Kid.. better watch out for the Kid...dont try to pull no shit or she'll shoot yer eye out.
Your golden treasure is just stuff & when your gone it wont make any differance to you what happens to it. If it makes you feel better to know where it goes get rid of it BEFORE you leave the ball.
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