She trys to tell me we don't have the money, and thats bull, she tells me all the time that the time is not right... If she only new how much money I have spent already she would shit.......
That's cold dude! Family first - then cars! Never forget that! If you want it the other way around go see a prostitute (one that likes old cars).
Yeah, I get that too. Its not so much that she hates the car (she likes hot rods and going to the drags...), its just that its taken a lot longer to complete than she thinks it should. It has cost more and taken more of my time than she would like-time I could spend more profitibly working on the house etc. She never could understand why I would buy a pile of crap (her words) that doesn't run and devote so much time to it. However, after 27 years she knows I'll do whatever I want to do!
LOL Chris, It may have been cold but if she hates what you like - there's no sense in staying with her. They can cause lots of pain over things like cars. If I didn't have kids I'd be long gone. Mine has given me so much shit over the years about my cars, and I'm not half bad like some guys. Lately though she's actually showing interest in a convertible of mine. She said she would like to drive it when it's finished. I almost shit. I'm gonna keep her involved with the resto now. Can't figure her out sometimes. Women, can't live with them, can't live without them.
Thankfully my wife is into cars. I was a bit nervous since she was from England and not into the car scene over there at all. Took her to Columbus GG show a couple of years ago and let her walk around and check stuff out while I was working our booth. When she came back at the end of the first day she said "I really like those 53 Studebakers and I like the look of wide white wall tires and steel wheels and tuck-n-roll upholstery." I nearly passed out, because I wasn't sure if she even dug the car scene. So after looking I found her a project car and she is stoked. It makes my car addiction a lot easier. I sorry your woman isn't this way.
Damn, Not even a response to my nut sack remark? Your about to fail THEM! Boot Camp BOY!!! And I may have mis-stated, Vern isn't really gay. Just a little confused. I know he's in love with me but who could blame him? Vern, you gonna post some pics of that Beotch (car) or are you gonna leave these dudes hangin? She'll come around. The comment about the visualization is right though. MOST women just can't picture it. Mama's car was in a pretty sad state when she bought it. So bad in fact that I figured she wasn't going to do it. But she saw one in all its glory at a show and knew what it could look like. She called me when I was in Milwaukee and told me she bought it and I needed to get my arse home and get to work on it. Fine by me, it's cooler than my ride. Vernaldo, perhaps she just needs to see one in a finished to nearly finished state? But then again, some never get it. Call me. RASHY
i met my wife at the nsra nats in loooovil in '92. she likes hot rods, but likes to ride on the back of the harley even more than hot rods. we get along GREAT (i like the harley as much as hot rods). my first wife, on the other hand...
I feel sorry for any guy who has to waste his short time on earth with a woman who doesn't support him. You could have done better.
Sorry - can't help you on this one. My wife is the only one of the two of us that has redone a car before...and she's a better wrench than I am!
Count me as one of the lucky ones. She really isn't into the hot rod scene but if I keep her in CD's and DVD's, she let's me go to the shop and scout for potential builders.
I'm one of the lucky ones,,,my wife of 33 years loves ol' cars as much as I do,,,,shortly after we got married I drug a model A pick-up home on her birthday,,,,she questioned my sanity,,,,having never built a car from the ground up she thought it would never go back together. Now she says,,,I never cease to amaze her,,,,I think she is refering to my talents and not my ,,,,stupidity! Brenda goes to the swap meets,,,cruz-ins,,,car shows,,,,,,,and she drives the 32 roadster as much as possible ,,,even if its 36 degrees! She has supported me in the building of several hot rods and hinted that it would be nice if someday I got her grandmothers ol' wagon running again,,,,,after a couple of false starts,,,, and 20 years later I got the hint,,,,,,,,,,I'm building it now as her daily driver! My wife doesn't hate ol' cars,,,,,HRP
My ex girlfriend was into whatever I was into (because she was psycho) she was like my shadow. A depressive nut, she use to cut herself up with glass and do all sorts of self destructive BS. She'd also screw any guy that made her feel good about herself. I could have retained her, and put up with a life filled with dramatic suicide attempts, psychotic night terrors, etc... Instead I found a girl I agree with 95% of the time, but thinks for herself.. Nothing is more annoying than watching a girl SAY and ACT like she's into the stuff you are, just for your approval. Every guy fantacizes about a sex slave who's into his hobbies, but I've been there, and it sucks. I'd rather have a fight with a girl that thinks for herself every day than go 10 years without a fight with a no-brain groupie It all is variable.. the population is vast, and we're all different in many tiny ways.. Luckily she likes the cars, motorcycles, but only to look at. She won't ever be any good at wrenching, or even caring about it. Luckily she cooks like a one man bakery, and knows how to do a lot of womanly stuff that I don't want to learn... Without knowing anyones' relationships on a personal level, it's hard to generalize something that has so many variables.
My wife didn't have such a problem when she had her own car. When she lost it, we had to get around in the Imp. After running out of gas twice and spraying coolant on her feet while she was riding shotgun(heater leak), she said she'd wait to ride in it until it was finished. So I guess she'll never ride in it again...
My wife won't ride in my '34. She says it's too clostrophobic. WORKS FOR ME !!!!!! I get to travel with my buddies and she stays home and gardens !!! What a deal. I see so many of my friends being told when to eat,when to go back to the motel,when to get up in the morning when we travel to shows that I'm glad she doesn't participate. She's been pissed since I sold my Chevelle conv. 11 years ago anyway.
my wife is into the cars as much as i am, she doesnt work on em but she'll damn sure drive my 67 caddy when she gets the chance!! she's got a 31 chevy sedan and wants a 66 chevy 2 to put her big block in!! so i guess id say im pretty lucky!!
Dudes, PLEASE! There is only one sure way to deal with this situation: Chain the little lady in the basement (in a good way) just before you bring home the new project and let her out after you fire it up and get some shiny paint on it so she'll 'ooooo' and 'aaaahhhh'. LOL I have found that it's the multiple colors of of primer and krylon that alarm them the most.
My wife falls somewhere between liking cars and tolerating them. Her big thing is that no one should actually spend more than $0.37 annually on any car. (That includes gas, oil changes, insurance, etc.) She has "suggested" selling the car several times, as it is "costing us too much money". (Mine's paid for tho. Don't ask what the mortgage on her 2004 Explorer is! ) Seems she keeps forgetting that if I don't have an old car, then I get even MORE unbearable to live with!
Does constant eye rolling count as hate? She used to complain about me not spending "quality time" with her watching TV, but when she mouthed off to a fellow triumph club members wife she was told "would you rather he chase women at the bar, play softball on a twice a week league, shoot darts 3 nights a week.....etc". So as a result she helped me rewire my '50, until she got bored with soldering and heat shrinking connections. Now we are back to eye rolling. swdobbs....
I think that visualization is the problem. When I redid our kitchen, I took it down to the studs, tore out the windows, everything. My wife just started sobbing. I'm standing there with a sledge hammer in my hand and a grin on my face thinking "what's wrong with her?" My Old Man poured her a cup of coffee and sat her down and talked to her while I kept working. Turns out that she couldn't see past what was in front of her. She couldn't visualize the kitchen ever being nice again. Well, it turned out great, and now she understands. Now we're doing the bathroom, and she's in there ripping out walls and floors! She bellyaches about not having a garage to park in during the long cold Michigan winters, but now she knows that I'm making progress on my ride, and the other day even asked if she's gonna get to drive it sometimes. "Of course." I said. It was a white lie, but I thought it was the smart thing to say! So here's the compromise: I do home improvements for her (read: buy new tools!) and then she gives up any claim to the garage and my time. So try a little give and take.
Obviously the ideal situation is for her to like your ride. But the key issue is for her to be happy for you when you are happy, and cars obviously make you happy. Spouces ought to be supportive of each other. If they aren't, there is going to be trouble. You never love someone else. You love the way someone else makes you feel. That goes for her, too. She'll love the way you make her feel. If she's the kind of person that needs to be the focal point to feel loved, it won't matter what hobby you have. she wont feel loved.
The really hard part about that, is that you hafta do it without even the slightest wimper of complaining. Seems every time my wife wants me to do something like that for her, it's all I can do to keep from griping about not being able to spend that time on my car. But if you complain, it negates all the good that it's doing!
The question is......Is your car finished? If it's still in the project stages, she prolly will hate it. Once she gets people ooohing and ahhhhing over the car when she drives it.....she'll like it. I have a ranch of cars, been married 15 years in April.
Hang on I have a long list hahaha. Anyways, I guess the only thing I got bent about was people telling this dude to get rid of her. That is a bold statement to make about someone you don't know. I'm lucky because my wife likes/ tolerates my '53 but I feel that is because I put everything I wanted on hold until the kids were past baby stage and we were financially secure enough for me to do it. Shit, if we just had a kid and didn't have a couple extra bucks each month I wouldn't blame here for being pissed. Give take give take give take. If all she does is take take take.. well.. make up your own mind.
Man i feel sorry for some of you guys! thank the good lord i have an awesome wife that loves cars. she grew up watching her dad build em' in the 70's. she's the best!!
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